Arguing so loud neighbours bang

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Hi

Embarrassing first post.

My OH shouts a lot. In most cases it's not about me! Families, jobs, bad neighbours, etc when she winds herself up, she shouts about it. She's partly deaf too.

This year, she's got herself wound up even more and Corona is adding to that because she's worried about getting sick as she's at risk.

During one of her shouting sessions, our new neighbours banged on the wall. I'm mortified! She's convinced herself it's just diy or something. But I can tell it's a shut the hell up banging. I didn't realise the walls were that thin.

I am not going to speak to them and in the age of social distancing, my appearance won't be welcome.

Anyone been here? I'm planning to just keep suggesting she keeps her voice down.

Thks.

Sounds like a horrible way to live, for you and for your new neighbour.

Tell her to stop shouting.
Nobody should have to put up with that.

Everyone argues but if it’s loud enough that it’s effecting your neighbours as well as you then there seems to be a problem. It isn’t nice to live next door to that. She needs to learn to control her angry and frustration and talk to you about the issues not shout at you about them. It doesn’t seem fair to you or the people who live next to you.

You need to tell her straight to find a new coping mechanism.

Fucking hell. No. Thats not acceptable. Why are you having ao many shouting matches?! Attend some counselling or something to deal with better communication.

What was the argument about?

If she’s that loud and in the light of more awareness being brought to domestic abuse situations, they may eventually phone the police. Hopefully that will make her stop behaving like a bad tempered child.

Thanks for this.

Well, everything is my fault. If I do things differently to the way she wants them then she kicks off. She also gets annoyed at neighbours, her family, ex school friends. She gets frustrated and blames me.

She sounds toxic. You dont sound like you have children. Just leave.

Why are you with this person?

So her way is right and everybody else’s way is wrong?

Fuck that for a game of soldiers.

Is she OCD? Has her behaviour worsened over the last few years as she’s realised you’ve tolerated it? Why does she not have a hearing aid? Why are you with this person?

It’s possible if she gets really angry she will strike you. That’s domestic abuse. Do you really want to hang around that long?

Her behaviour is unacceptable. She is disrespecting you. Leave.

She sounds like she has many issues-you’re coping very well. Tell her to use an ‘indoor voice’ like teachers do with children . Nobody (you or your neighbours) should have to put up with shouting .