Got no friends

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I feel really sad, we were out today and DH bless said he has no mates,
when we first got married we did everything together and still do, but we have moved and friends live so far away.

It came about as he was 40 and thought who would we invite, not so bad for me i go to mum and toddler things but feel sorry for dh feel like i have held him back.

He said he loves spending time with dd and me but male bonding would be good too.

You may not have any advice i am just ranting.

What about inviting a few of your friends and thier partners plus children round at the week-end so he can get to know some dads.I don't think you should blame yourself these things happen because of pressure of time and distance.

My dh is the same too, he is also self-employed so he even works on his own, he doesn't seem to mind but it would be nice if he had a mate to go out with.

don't know whether this is good advice or not - what about trying Friends Reunited - he might be able to get back in touch with some school friends?

My dh is similar because his family and friends are in London but we moved up to Manchester when we got married. He's got work friends and will go on work nights out but other than that, noone. He doesn't seem to mind either.

We occasionally get together with the Mum and toddler group families so he obviously chats to them, but they never seem to get together as blokes. A shame really because I think most of them are in a similar situation.

Blokes don't seem to be as bothered by it do they?

My dh says the same. Truth is, he does have friends, he just doesn't keep in touch with them like I do mine. I've tried to instruct him in the ways of having proper telephone conversations, which don't go along the lines of "hello mate , alright? Great, see you" but it hasn't worked. I've also told him about the values of keeping in touch even if you don't have anything specific to discuss, and that communication is allowed in between meeting up for england matches, but he doesn't get it. I am of the conclusion that men communicate differently now, so have given up. Maybe your dh should just give some mates a call/drop them an email? Does he have anyone locally he knows even a bit, that he could maybe try and develop a friendship with?

thanks lou33 dh is like that he has friends but does not keep in touch but yep blokes don't seem bothered ...till now, i wish he would go out once in a while( just so i can put dd to bed early cuddle up on the sofa, choc and drink in each hnd arhhh bliss, oh and put mil to bed early too)

Anyone for a girls night out thats put me in the mood ...

Mines the same - he is incredibly lazy about mtg up with his mates and mtg new people. Fine when he worked but now he's a sahd its a different story.