Friends

[Newt1971]

How is it that try to make friends and I cant. As soon as I trust someone I will be let down. So I just keep to myself and spend most of my time with my Dh and his work colleagues. I have tried the Internet but I found that people lie more on there. All I'm after is a person who can be trusted and is genuinely interested in being friends. 😔

Hi OP! I'm sorry you're struggling to make friends.. it can be complicated and frustrating to find the right people to surround yourself with! Do your dh's work mates have partners that seem nice? Maybe you could all go out as a group and see how you get on with them... don't give up!' There are nice, trustworthy people out there! I promise!

My Dh fiends do have partners but when I have tried to connect with them but they get very bitchy. I have a laugh with Dh mates but I want to be able to have friends that I could spend some time and have a chat and laugh with. And thank you.

Hi! I don't know if you have tried the peanut app? Like tinder but for mums!! It give you the chance to properly chat, you can decide whether to meet. Might be good to find your tribe?

Do you do any hobbies? Do you work or have children? All my close adult friends I’ve met through work, or their children and mine are friends or I’ve met through my hobby. I have one extremely close friend but then I find I turn to specific friends for specific things so 1) I’m not relying constantly on one person and 2) there’s less chance of them letting you down.

Thank you all for the good advice 😁

I'm feeling the same. People who I thought were my friends, and even ones who I thought were my best friends have let me down and it hurts, it leaves you feeling unworthy and lonely. I only have one person I'd consider a life long friend but she lives 5 hours away and we only see each other once a year usually. So I dont have a tribe like alot of women my age do (in my 30s). I keep thinking maybe I'm not meant to have a tribe?

It's a shame it happens. And you do feel lonely and down. And you question everything. Thank you for your reply and take care.

I think I've made all my friends through interest groups or work but I'm not emotionally dependent on any of them. Maybe you are expecting too much when you talk about trust and being 'let down'.