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Who has a will, who hasn't, and why?

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WaynettaSlob · 02/09/2007 19:27

Having seen a couple of threads this evening about pensions and wanting to know if you were going to die, just wanted to know who has written their wills.
DH and I did ours after the birth of DS1; we wanted to make sure that if anything happened to us people knew what was to happen with our offspring (who was to look after them, what type of education we wanted them to have etc). I also included details of my funeral in mine (I am RC and have particulat hymns and readings that mean a lot to me; DH is agnostic so if I die first I would probably have ended up with God knows what!)
So, am I alone, or one of many? And if you haven't written one, why not?

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JARM · 02/09/2007 19:30

I havent.

We have an agreement with family that if anything tragic were to happen to me and DH, they know who will raise the children.

We have nothing financially to leave them so they can divvy up the house stuff between them.

If/When we are more financially secure, then i will of course get one written.

Tortington · 02/09/2007 19:31

i haven't written one becuase i have no worldly goods.

that will change in the next year. i will have a will - and i will have to give it much thought.

anything else for me personally is superficial - i trust my dh to do the best job he can and to give me the burial i want - as we have been married so long he knows i would like to be buried, as i am rc he knows it would be a church service, anything other detail is for him to do what he thinks best, i wouldnt want him to think he failed in any way - should he not be able to pull it off.

i dont however trust dh to be at all sensible with money - and so if i die - he wont get it. he will however have to be looked after until his death - and so there are legal things i need to ask about when the time arises to get the will

LaCod · 02/09/2007 19:32

you must cisty
save your dh loads of hassle and ££££

gemmiegoatlegs · 02/09/2007 19:33

i haven't but will have to sort one out. have been meaning to since ds was born 4 years ago. at first i thought a will was about money but now i realise if we don't get something in writing my mum will defo try to stake a claim on the dcs whereas i would prefer them to be raised by one of our siblings (ie in a young family) Do you just arrange a will through a solicitor? I've heard the DIY ones aren't watertight...

whoops · 02/09/2007 19:34

We had a will as soon as dh & I bought our first house. FIL never had a will when he died an dh had to deal with all sorts of problems
I work for solicitors and they quite often include details of funerals etc

zippitippitoes · 02/09/2007 19:34

I haven't and i know ishould have as I have got stuff to leave and no one knows anything about my "affairs"...except me

littlelapin · 02/09/2007 19:34

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fuzzywuzzy · 02/09/2007 19:35

I havent and neither does dh, we keep meaning to get it sorted out.... We really should have done it an age ago really.

RubySlippers · 02/09/2007 19:36

we are getting ours drawn up in 3 weeks
why - so if the worst happens it isn't worse than it needs to be with probate and so if me and DH both go DS is cared for in accordance with our wishes

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WaynettaSlob · 02/09/2007 19:36

FWIW - what drove us to do ours wasn't in case one of us died, but in case both of us died.....

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DumbledoresGirl · 02/09/2007 19:38

Dh and I did joint wills when we had our first child, mainly to appoint a guardian for our children and to state that our assets are to be used to raise our children. It was written a long time ago now and was very plain and basic.

I have ideas about what I want to happen to my body when I die and also, now that there are 4 children and they are older, I am beginning to formulate ideas about individual bequests I would like the children to have, so I suppose we will have to do it again soon.

Tinker · 02/09/2007 19:39

Did it when we bought our house - complicated domestics meant it was critical really. Felt very grown up.

peanutbear · 02/09/2007 19:42

i have my friend died at 31 and it scared me so I took out loads of life insurance
and wrote a will
It isn't current now because i have had a daughter since so need to amend it, and i wanted to make sure my mother got my share of the parental responsibility

artichokes · 02/09/2007 19:43

We do. With instructions for who will look after DD and who gets are house. Also both out employers give a good death in service benefit so we have to tell work who should get that.

My Dad died without a will and my Mum had to fight his ex-wife for our house.

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