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LaraMonroe87 · 12/01/2020 22:34

Hi everyone,

Can you recall a time when you were younger and you had all your best friends! Around you, and you all made a promise to each other that no matter what happens in life, you will always, always, be there for each other. But then you fast forward to your life now and your 'best friends' are nowhere to be seen?!. I'm a 32 year old mother of 3, a wife, a mother of a child with a rare degenerative condition which involves special needs and disabilities. I live and work full time in east london and am currently studying for my degree. I have 3 lovely dogs and a beautiful family for which I feel extremely blessed to have. But, I have no friends. Now, I know this 'issue' may seem so trivial to some and I guess it kinda is, but to be completely honest.... I miss having friends and feel jelous when I see other women with awesome friendship groups. I mean real friendship groups, the kind that are there when you're feeling like shit and genuinely want to spend time with you and are in your life for the long haul. Not the kind that want to be there when its convenient for them nor because they're going to get something from you. What happened to genuine friendships??? Nowadays it seems every damn thing is online and although technology is great for connecting people, human beings seem to be more disconnected on a humanistic level, than ever before! Sorry if I'm ranting here, but I miss the 'good ol' days' where things seemed simpler and people were more genuine. Just wondered if there was any other mums out there who are feeling/experiencing the same???

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Whatdayisit2 · 12/01/2020 22:52

I am

whydoihavetogothroughsomuch · 24/01/2020 21:35

I'm in a similar situation. I feel that this year my best friend has met someone else and I have hardly heard from her. She was the only one I have ever trusted. I only used to really see her and it's made me feel isolated the last few weeks.

Marley040783 · 30/01/2020 21:06

Can totally relate, having a baby really changes everything but I've grown to no it's not personal people just stop inviting g you places because they assume now you have a child/children you no longer want to socialise.

Pembsgirl · 12/02/2020 16:52

It's the same if you become disabled. To start with friends tend to rally around because they want to help or if they're not such great friends, simply because they want to know what's happening. But then when things settle down and they realise you can no longer do what you used to, they tend to desert you like rats from a sinking ship! I have one friend who I've known for about 30 years, but we now live 4 hours away, so naturally see less of each other, but do keep in touch by phone and text, but other than that, people seem to be so wrapped up in their own lives that they can't or don't want to put themselves out for others any more. So another one here who wants to go back to times when people had less but were kinder to one and other.

Whynosnowyet · 12/02/2020 16:54

No friends
Zero family except dh and dc.
Dc have no dgps or other relatives at all.
It's crap.

meme70 · 18/02/2020 14:42

Me I’ve 1 friend where I live and a long distant friend

It’s awfully lonely isn’t it

I’m considering making a website for making frimds in your area

meme70 · 18/02/2020 14:44

@Whynosnowyet. If you’d like an online friend I’m very friendly
I live on the Isle of Wight have a dog 3 older daughters I’m female aged 50

Whynosnowyet · 18/02/2020 15:34

I am 48, currently have 5 ddogs!! Sadly be down to 4 next week.... Sad
I have adult dc including 1 dd ages 30 , and down to primary school ones!!

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LaraMonroe87 · 02/04/2020 09:58

Thanks for your replies ladies. How are you all doing in isolation? We started ours 2 weeks ago because we have a child with a vulnerable condition. 2 down, 11 more to go! I hope by summer everything will be ok. It's a very scary time

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Pembsgirl · 02/04/2020 13:28

I guess that in this circumstance we're probably better off than people that do have a lot of friends, as at least we're not used to having lots of people visit, and therefore won't be missing them. Got to look for the silver lining of our lives at this point, haven't we?

Hope everyone is keeping safe and well. Let's make sure we keep in touch on this post if we're feeling the strain of being alone with this horrible pandemic going on around us. I'm always happy to private message anyone who needs a friend to talk to, so please message rather than feeling miserable and alone.

BatleyTownswomensGuild · 02/04/2020 13:32

I was in this situation for a good 5-7 years. Compounded by the fact that I have virtually no family left. I am fortunate that a few lovely people have come into my life in the past few years and I'm very grateful for them.

It is tough, OP. But how it is now is not necessarily how it will always be... Thanks

Rewy · 02/04/2020 13:46

Watching this thread as I’m the same Sad
I do have one friend so I’m lucky to have her.
Never thought at 44 I would be so lonely.

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