I’m recently married to a man I’ve been with for just over 5 years, we also have a LO who will be 2 in March. I know it’s totally normal but since LO our relationship has gone very downhill. We have good time’s but we have lots of arguments, disagreements and I find myself wondering if “this is it” quite a lot. I know my husband loves me, he works hard, he’s a great dad albeit a bit too over protective. I often feel slightly neglected which I know sounds pathetic, he snaps at me sometimes and I feel rubbish, he’s not particularly tactile apart from when he wants something lol and all the little things that he used to do he no longer does. The main thing I miss is us having a laugh, having fun together (I don’t mean like going out and getting pissed). I regularly suggest going into town, going to museums as a family or doing different activities - he doesn’t want to, worries about the journey, is too tired etc.
A lot of the time things just feel hard work, I don’t know if he’s ever actually that happy (I think his idea of happiness is sitting in front of the TV all day)
My mum passed away when I was 22 so don’t feel like I have anyone to ask, is this normal? Should I just start doing things me and LO? Am I trying hard to live in a Disney film lol? I see other couples and they just look so much happier !!
I guess I feel like a failure, I’ve tried to speak to my husband but he thinks I’m moaning and “never happy” so have stopped saying anything now. Not sure if this is a premenstrual rant but just feeling crappy!!!