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Have you been to a School Reunion?

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Miaou · 29/09/2004 16:53

What happened? Did you enjoy it?

I ask because I had a terrible time at school and wild horses would not drag me back for a reunion(although I follow ex-pupils up via FriendsReunited). I think it would make me feel like I did as a teenager and I don't think I want to go through that again!!!

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littlemissbossy · 29/09/2004 16:54

No Miaou - felt the same as you TBH, so didn't go

lou33 · 29/09/2004 17:46

I went to a mini one with spacemonkey. V disappointing.

iota · 29/09/2004 17:46

was that just you and spacemonkey lou?

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Miaou · 29/09/2004 17:51

Did you feel under pressure to show how successful/accomplished/gorgeously stylish you are? Or did you just think, sod the lot of you, I am who I am?

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Hulababy · 29/09/2004 17:52

Yes I have. It was in summer 2001, and 10 years after we had left sixth form. It was good actually. Everyone looked much the same - just a bit older and mostly a bit chubbier Had a good night, lots of chatting and drinking was done, looking at old photos. Some of the teachers came too. Dh and I went to sixth form together - met and got together their in lower sixth, and we had a good group of friends - but everyone had lost touch. So i was nice to go together and catch up.

lou33 · 29/09/2004 17:56

LOL! No Iota, if that was the case we would have had a brilliant time!

About 5 others. V dull women looking like they would rather be anywhere but there, men sitting back being pompous and bragging about how impressive they were and how fantasticaly rich they are, flashy cars etc (then heard one of them calling his mum to tell her not to pick him up!)

lou33 · 29/09/2004 17:57

I thought sod the lot of you, actually. One of the blokes was quite offensive.

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Miaou · 29/09/2004 17:59

Were they all people you remembered from school Lou?

They sound deeply insecure! (Bit like me really )

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lou33 · 29/09/2004 18:07

Yes they were, and they were nice at school. Everyone we have been in touch with (sm and I) have been utterly dull. I could be tempted to go to a huge reunion though, dress outrageously , get pissed and sit giggling in the corner or dancing outlandishly in the middle of the dance floor. No karaoke though, shudder.

bundle · 29/09/2004 18:08

loved it (but got my mum to wait outside in the car, engine running in case i hated it )

hana · 29/09/2004 18:09

went to a 10 year reunion for my highschool. Still keep in touch with a handful of them - had fantastic time - spent the night chatting away. DH had just proposed a few days before so I had lots to chat about (and he had lots of people to meet, poor man!)
I do think it depends of the kind of experience you had when your were in school and if you've kept in touch with anyone though, I wouldn't have gone by myself or if any old friends I was in contact with weren't going either.

lou33 · 29/09/2004 18:10

God I wouldn't even contemplate going to one with dh! He went to one and had a good time on his own

Hulababy · 29/09/2004 18:11

That was one problem actually - didn't actually remember who everyone was to start with. People kept coming up to DH and me and talking to us, and we chatted back. After they'd moved on though we were having to try and figure out who some were!

lou33 · 29/09/2004 18:13

I think school renunions should have a law that everyone attending has to wear a badge of what they looked like at the time they left school. Could be v funny.

Miriam2 · 29/09/2004 18:17

Went, got drunk, danced, broke my necklace...but generally had a good time! But....realised that those people you wanted to keep in touch with, you in fact already had...and all the others were dull/ middle-aged- probably thought the same about me! Quite good but haven't kept in touch with anyone I re-met there.

prettycandles · 29/09/2004 21:02

I've been wondering about this myself. A couple of weeks ago I was invited to a reunion in a very 'accidental' sort of way, difficult to explain exactly, but I felt that I hadn't been on the original list of invitees IYSWIM. Anyway, I'm wondering whether to go, will I find that it's a clique reunion, and as I wasn't part of that clique then, will I feel uncomfortable if I go now?

zaphod · 29/09/2004 21:20

I went to my 20year reunion, a couple of years ago. I dreaded it, but dh made me go. This was a boarding school, so basically, I was meeting people I had lived with for 5 years. And hadn't seen since I left school.

IT WAS GREAT. Everyone was the same, same senses of humour, and I remebered why I had liked them so much, or disliked them. We got to see around the school, and there was a slide show featuring pictures of us all, during our school days.

Naturally dh was the hit of the night, and several people came up to compliment me on him. He's the sort of person who can get along with anyone, anywhere. I am really glad I went.

Turns out my first boyfriend is now incredibly rich.

Tommy · 29/09/2004 21:40

I went to one from my primary school (25 years since we left!) and it was hilarious! really great fun and we could have stayed all night only the landlord chucked us out of the pub. I was a bit nervous although there was one friend who I had stayed in touch with and whose Mum I still see and also had just found out I was pg with DS2 so couldn't drink much but it really was good fun.
A couple of people have tried to organise ones from my secondary school but I haven't been so keen on that. I think you change more from primary school and a secondary school one I think might just throw up lots of stuff

MeanBean · 29/09/2004 22:24

I went to one and got off with someone I'd vaguely fancied in the sixth form but had always thought was a bit of an idiot. Took him home and shagged him. A rather unexpected and unanticipated turn of events. Never saw him again afterwards, to my relief, as although he was an extraordinarily competent shag, he was still an extremely vacuous and dull person. I think it's because he'd spent ten years perfecting the art of being a fantastic lover, and had neglected other areas of character development. Having said that, if I met up with him again at another reunion, I'd probably shag him again (he was very good - well you would be if you did nothing else)!

motherinferior · 29/09/2004 22:29

I quite like the idea of going to one, because I was so very respectable and uptight as a sixthformer (beneath my Laura Ashley dress I yearned to be a cross between Simone de Beauvoir and Astrid Proll, but you'd never have guessed). I would rather like to sneak off for a spliff and generally behave in the unrespectable way I wish I'd done more of at the time (and rapidly took to after leaving school).

It's not going to happen, though. I am in touch with a couple of people from then - this is about 23 years, you understand - and it is quite odd how different we are from then.

marthamoo · 29/09/2004 22:57

Miriam2, good point - the people you want to stay in touch with you do, and vice versa. I've found on friendsreunited people I lost touch with years ago and, after an initial flurry of catching up, we've not had a lot to say to each other and the correspondence has petered out.

One of my friends (of 16 years standing, so someone I did want to keep in touch with!) made me laugh when she said friendsreunited should be called www.ifi'dlikedyouiwouldhavekeptintouch.co.uk

And no, answering the initial question, I have never been to a school/Uni reunion - uurgh.

JuniperDewdrop · 29/09/2004 23:43

I went to my 20 year reunion a few months back and it was fab I got drunk, danced madly when Duran Duran came on and had a ball. I could work out who most of the women were but a lot of the men had changed beyond belief. Name badges would've been a good idea. Some of the people i spoke to said they'd been dreading it but they stayed late and had fun. There was one aloof woman who sat in the corner for an hour then went?
Miaou, I'd honestly say go. No one at mine was trying to impress. I suppose it depends what school you went to. Even people who'd been bullied and were dreading confronting people had a good time at ours. In fact one girl had a go at someone who'd bullied her in school and the bully (she isn't now though) looked mortified!

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Miaou · 29/09/2004 23:54

Kind of like the idea of a school reunion, but I know I would bottle it if I went. Too many unresolved issues, I think.

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