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Tortington · 29/08/2002 20:35

dont know whether i am just on a downer but am feeling very isolated at the moment. have moved and bin in house since march, moved jobs - just started another job this week, but i miss the familiarity of home.
so have to start to try and make friends with collegues at work all over again ( dont seem too friendly big organisation) have put my name down for an evening class, but i just want to nip round someones house for a brew and a whinge ... am a bit fed up!
sorry for going on

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Bozza · 29/08/2002 20:37

Don't apologise Custardo. There's probably a lot of us that are in the same position. Thats why Mumsnet is so popular! I know sometimes it can seem hard but it does sound like you are making the effort.

ionesmum · 29/08/2002 21:57

custardo, I've been there too. Mumsnet has really been such a help in that respect. As Bozza says, you are making the effort, soon something will come along.

jodee · 29/08/2002 22:25

Custardo, sorry you are feeling so low, it takes time doesn't it to settle into a new home/job. Whereabouts are you?

lilibet · 29/08/2002 22:39

I read on the other thread that you were thinking of going to church, when I moved house it was at a new church where I found most of the people who are now my best friends. It is very difficult tho' esp when you are working as well. Are you in a mixed age/sex office? I would love to see you for a brew or better still a glass of wine, but you're probably a long way away! I will have one in your honour!! Keep your chin up.

SueDonim · 30/08/2002 02:53

Lots of sympathy, Custardo, as I'm feeling the same at the moment. I just want to be back amongst familiar people, places and things, not trying to make a new life half way round the world. I'm missing my two boys (age 23 & 27) so much, too.

Not sure how old your boys are, but NCT might be way of meeting new people or there's NWR where you might meet some new folks. Hope you feel better soon.

SueDonim · 30/08/2002 02:55

Dunno why I assumed you had boys - 'children' or 'family' would be more appropriate!!

florenceuk · 30/08/2002 14:07

Custardo know how you feel, been there, done that. Even now I think I don't have a really close friend here in the UK after 5 years! I think it gets harder to make close friends as you get older - at school or college you have more opportunities to know others on a day-to-day basis, work here is rather impersonal and i have to go off home at 5pm anyway. So lots of sympathy, and no good solutions - apart from relying on your DP more perhaps for company.

CAM · 30/08/2002 17:46

Custardo, I hope you will be coming along to the Brighton lunch in early October.

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Tortington · 01/09/2002 00:38

awwww ta much everyone xxxxxxxx you lot really cheered me up a lot. i hope to be coming to the meet in brighton so i will see friendly faces there.
sorry bout mi strop everyone! its bin one of those weeks!
xxxxxxxx
jodie i live in worthing BTW xxxxx

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jodee · 01/09/2002 09:00

Custardo, see you in Brighton, then! Glad you are feeling better today

Ghosty · 01/09/2002 09:11

Know how you feel Custardo. We moved to New Zealand from the UK five months ago and at times I can feel very lonely. Have met some nice people on the playgroup circuit and enjoying the lifestyle a lot but I miss my family like its a physical pain. Don't miss England itself that much - NZ is actually very similar but not as cold and the scenery is much nicer! It is just such a shame it is so far away!

We have done the right thing for us and our ds but no amount of new friends can make up for the history you have with those friends and family you grew up with!

This is why I like reading Mumsnet so much - don't often post messages but have come to see some of you as mates!!

Chin up!

Ghosty · 01/09/2002 09:13

Oh and have fun in Brighton (not far from my old stomping ground). Have a drink for me!!!

PamT · 01/09/2002 10:42

A friend of mine has family in NZ and she has a weekly net conference with them. They have a web cam at either end and have a regular Sunday evening meet up. Another friend is from France and her family join her on-line at 7pm every night. If you get a microphone and web cam at each end, you can almost have a face to face chat. I'm not sure about the technicalities but it can't be too difficult to organise. Worth considering if you are very far apart.

Ghosty · 01/09/2002 10:55

Thanks PamT. We have a webcam but it is no good to us as we don't know anyone else that has one!!! I should persuade my parents to sort it out shouldn't I?

Rhubarb · 02/09/2002 14:59

Oooh Custardo a web cam!!! Can you imagine! If you get one then I'll get one too!

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