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Husband issues at work advice needed desperately

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sheard · 28/10/2019 21:38

My partner struggled all his life to hold down a job he has no qualifications and struggles with factory type work care work and has never worked in retail he does a council worker job cutting grass etc he has managed to hold this job for 5 years and I finally thought he had turned a corner but he is having issues with a bloke at work and they have moved him to another depot he has basically been told its here or jobcentre hes litter picking in a not great area of town and now hates it as it's not a great area but I think he should be grateful hes got a job and get on with it after all I work hard as a care assistant working nights just to put food on the table I'm really sick of him been lazy he always looks to take time off sick if he can lucky he does actually get paid but that will stop at some point im sure or he will lose the job due to absences I'm at my wits end

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Krisskrosskiss · 28/10/2019 21:42

Do you have children? If you dont or they are adults... to be frankly honest I'd just tell him he has to leave if he doesnt start taking work more seriously. Why on earth should you pay for an able bodied mans life (unless hes a SAHP to young children or you are fantastically wealthy and want it that way)??
He might start taking work more seriously if hes got no one there to pick up the pieces for him.

HermioneWeasley · 28/10/2019 21:45

He needs to grow up.

LIZS · 28/10/2019 21:49

Unless he is able and willing to gain qualifications he will need to accept that he will not easily progress or get to choose where he works or with whom. What were his issues?

sheard · 28/10/2019 21:55

He says a bloke was having a go at him winging dogs but I just think it's his attitude as if anyone says anything he cannot hack it I scurt round to try not to upset him we have no kids and only just manage on our wages o recently had to leave my job...reasons I'd rather not go into but no fault of my own and the care assistant job was local no travel expenses we live in a small town and we cannot afford to run another car I'm just so grateful to have employment I work really hard and make the best of my job to put food on the table I say to him I work hard for minimum wage a job is a job get on with it I've told him he cannot be taking time off sick and to be careful keep his head down crack on of he loses this job I'll be so mad I think I would leave

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penisbeakers · 28/10/2019 22:10

Just get rid of him he sounds like a waste of space.

thethoughtfox · 28/10/2019 22:22

You deserve better

sheard · 03/11/2019 20:15

Now hes sulking like a baby at the prospect of having to go in monday hes looking for other jobs I've told him he needs to man up and get on with it or he will lose his home me if hes out of work as my wage wont support us I do love him and am happy 60 percent of the time but he drives me mad with his childish behaviour

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Busybeebeebee · 20/11/2019 08:25

Happy 60% of the time is not what life is about OP.
I realise we all have to knuckle down and do things we don’t really want to (trust me, I work in the healthcare sector with care assistants and I think the job is massively underpaid for what you do, so full respect, especially on the night shifts).
I think you have to be selfish to a degree here and if he behaves like this just don’t entertain him. If he continues then it really is time to reassess your relationship with him. He will grind you down and eventually that 60% happiness will decrease more and more.

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