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upset about dd not likeing nursery all of a sudden

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nikcola · 22/09/2004 14:30

dd started nursery on monday (private) she had been or two induction thingys there allready , she was fine on monday and fine on tuesday and didnt cry at all she waved to me from the wiondow with a smile on her face,
however this morning she would not let go of me and started saying i want to come with you mommy why has she been ok till today i thought she liked it there i rang 20 mins after i left and she stopped crying and was painting but it upset me till i picked her up she was only there half day today till 12,
ive been asking her is she looking forward to going back to nursery on friday and she keeps saying no she doesnt want to go ,

i can take going to collage every day if she crys every morning

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nikcola · 22/09/2004 17:58

yeh thanks i just posted ill let you no xxxx

so do you think i should just take her and let her cry but do you think she will ever stop crying x

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Angeliz · 22/09/2004 18:32

nikcola, hi

Today was the first day dd didn't cry!
She got a bravery sticker.
She too was happy as Larry for the first two days the on days 3-4-5, she CRYED
It is heartbraking isn't it?
I wouldn't give up as if you don't have it now, you'll have it next year, (at least that's what i'm telling myself! I was thinking of pulling her out yesterday but then she LOVED ballet yesterday and today she was 'better'.
Let us know+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++

cazzybabs · 22/09/2004 18:43

Nik can you hang round outside the door but out of sight - beause if you do she is bound to stop crying as soon as she is distracted.

Also ask the nursery nurses how long she cries for? Do they take her and give her a cuddle and find her something to do?

At dd's nursery they unhook her from my leg, crying at this point, I go out of the door and they engage her in a story or playing and by the time I have got out of the building I can see her no longer crying and playing. And then when I go to pick her up at hometime she tells me "go away mummy" and screams as I try and take her away from nursery!

motherinferior · 23/09/2004 09:07

Nik, I spoke to my very nice and very experienced childminder today, who's a mum herself (and admits freely she cried her eyes out on her dd1's first day at nursery!).

She says the child who goes in all smiles for the first couple of days is an absolute classic - they're always braced for a little outburst when the novelty wears off. And then it should all settle down.

Give it time. I do seriously think that a nice nursery with lots going on is a brilliant environment for a two year old (and tires them out nicely too!)

Angeliz · 23/09/2004 09:18

nikcola hi
Is your dd in today?
How did it go?
My dd went in and still a little shaky but no tears and asking all kinds of questions, (will i do the singing i missed....).
It's my dd's 9th day i think today. The first 2 were great, couldn't wait to get rid of me, the next 5-6 were awful and i felt sick with worry and cryed every time i left and now on the 8th 9th day, i HOPE she's turning a corner(though i still expect a few tears on Monday after the weekend off).
So you and your dd are going through the real hard middle part.
Hope you have some good support and your dd gets to the fun part soon+++++++++++++++++++++++

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nikcola · 23/09/2004 10:08

she doesnt go in on thursdays so im taking her shopping for some new shoes for nursery !!!! im dreading tomorow

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motherinferior · 23/09/2004 10:28

But don't SHOW her you're dreading it!!!

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nikcola · 23/09/2004 15:01

i told her if she doesnt cry tomoow morning linz my best friend (she loves her to bits) will come with me to pick her up but i no shes gonna cry but like somone said she HAS to get used to it

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motherinferior · 23/09/2004 15:03

Maybe next week don't make an issue of crying or not, in advance? Otherwise crying/not crying will become just one more battle in that morning struggle all mummies know so well

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nikcola · 23/09/2004 15:05

ill try xxx

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edam · 23/09/2004 15:38

Nik, it does get better! Ds has been going since he was 7 months. Is really happy at nursery; started off first few days fine, then a bit of a clingy phase (but I watched through the window and he was all happy once there was no mummy in the audience, the little pickle) then absolutely fine again. He does have his clingy moments (is 14 months) but is remarkable how a cuddle from one of the nursery nurses/the offer of some breakfast can completely distract him. So it can't be that deep-rooted
It's lovely when you get to the stage where they come running to you when you turn up, have a cuddle, and then turn round for a cuddle from the nursery nurse too - demonstrates how safe and secure they feel there but how much they want you too!
Good luck with the course,

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nikcola · 24/09/2004 16:37

she didnt cry she walked in and a little boy about 3 said "hello shireen i like shreen" god that made my day xxxxx

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Hulababy · 24/09/2004 16:40

Only jsut caught up with this. Sorry you've had a rough few days. Sounds like today was much better. She must be finding her feet now. Fingers crossed it all continues well for you both

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nikcola · 24/09/2004 16:43

thank you, i just hope she doesnt cry on monday shes feel asleep now so she must of been knackered out bless her xxxx

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Angeliz · 24/09/2004 18:12

Nickola, good news.
Fingers crossed for Monday, (for me too, Mondays are hard after the weekend at home again).

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nikcola · 24/09/2004 18:37

good luck to you and your dd xxxxxxxxxxxxx

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Blu · 24/09/2004 19:25

Glad you and Shireen had another good day, Nik. Well done.

mckenzie · 24/09/2004 19:39

I haven't read all the comments Nikcola so plese forgive me if I repeat something that has already been written.
Exactly the same happened with DS when he started playgroup. It didn't last long at all. I dont think we did anyhting in particular to try and stop it happening, just carried on as normal. Hang in there if you can.

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nikcola · 26/09/2004 19:02

good luck for tomorow angeliez xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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Angeliz · 27/09/2004 11:34

Hello Nikcola
How was your dd? Can you see an improvement or is she still finding it hard?
My dd was a bit shaky but said she was gonna be brave again and didn't cry. Am off to get her now and then we're off to the Metro-Centre to see the Wiggles

Hope you dd enjoyed it+

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nikcola · 27/09/2004 16:46

well done my dd was fine but theres still tomoorow xxxxxx

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nikcola · 28/09/2004 20:23

bump xxx

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littlemissbossy · 28/09/2004 20:24

Hi Nikola, how's she been?
oh and how's college btw?

Blu · 28/09/2004 20:25

Nickola - are you going to be worrying about this for the whole of your college term?
you daft bat - she's been fine on all but one morning!
How are YOU?

motherinferior · 28/09/2004 20:42

you got it, Blu!