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Should I move into an area that I found quite pleasent but is apparently "as ruff as f*** " ....

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Bellyhangingover · 04/08/2007 23:35

I've been waiting for a long time for a 2 bed house for me and DD (2 years). We are currently in an upstairs flat which is not ideal. I have previously been offered 2 ground floor flats which I refused as they were in rather dubious areas and I ideally wanted a garden for DD. I recieved my last offer today, which was a 2 bed house in an area which i knew very little about.

I had a drive down today to have a look around the neighbourhood (no keys until monday) and it looked quite nice (apart from a few hoodies that were watching me closely). The houses are pretty with a large garden. I asked the neighbour about the area and she said it was alright, shed had no problems in the 2 years she has been there. (She has a 2 y.o son) She let me have a look around her house to get a feel for the inside. And its lovely and spacious.

On the way home, I called at a friends who I knew has other friends in that area and she told me not to move there cos it's as" ruff as f*" She said theres drugs, violence and robberies... But knowing this friend of hers, its possible that she was probably going out with one of the said drug dealing theives. I keep myself to myself and so dont think i would encounter these people on a daily basis in the same way. Am I being niave? Just because I long for more space for me and DD? Would you move even if alarm bells were ringing all around? My dp is away for 3 months, maybe longer, but he thinks i should move there. My mum is also trying to convince me that it can't be that bad. I am on other waiting lists, so if i do get struck off of this waiting list (for refusing 3 homes), there is a possibility i will be offered something else, altho there is no guarentee how soon,... Any thoughts? sorry if its longo!!!

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TheQueenOfQuotes · 04/08/2007 23:39

I wouldn't move tbh.

When we bought our first house we didn't know the area, but had a drive around and it seemed "nice", neighbours said it was ok.......then we moved there and it was hell. We pretty much kept to ourselves but we soon discovered that looks can be decieving, it was pretty horrible.

Does your local newspaper have an online website? If so try doing a search on it for the area that you'll be going to - I did that after we'd moved to that house and it came up with lots of stuff...

expatinscotland · 04/08/2007 23:46

No!

pepperpots · 04/08/2007 23:52

I'm sorry to be the one to be the opposite. I suffer terible from anxiety so when we move to our new house i was terrified as a few people said that it was a hang out for the local youths ( i live right opposite a park and playing field). I have to say that apart from one night - and it was just lot of kids being kids - it has been fine. I keep myself to myself and so do my neighbours and it has been fine. Although to be fair we do have a neighbourhood watch scheme in our area. Maybe it would be worth finding it out. Just type into google it should tell you.

HTH

Good luck whatever you decide x

Bellyhangingover · 04/08/2007 23:55

Lol @ Expat... short but certainly confirming NO!

OH my days TQOQ... I just did what u suggested, looked at local newspaper website, typed in addy... lawd of mercy... asbo this and arson that and council promising facelift and disputes over parking... there were over 100 stories!!!

I think that is one big fat all round NO to moving there then! There is nothing wrong with my little flat except, no garden and me worrying about excessive noise for downstairs neighbour, cos my DD is like a little bull... Guess theyre gonna have to put up with us for a little longer tho...

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expatinscotland · 04/08/2007 23:57

STay put, Belly and hang in there and stick to your guns for your daughter's sake.

It'll be worth the wait in the end.

Am right there with ya!

TheQueenOfQuotes · 04/08/2007 23:58

in that case definitely stay put

pepperpots · 04/08/2007 23:59

The differnce was when i typed my address nothing major came up! Over a hundred???!!!!! DO NOT MOVE THERE!!!!! And if they take you off the list just ask them if they would move there. I'm pretty sure you'll get back on the list x

Bellyhangingover · 05/08/2007 00:02

Aw thanks you guys, was worried about telling the housing people no again, but u know what, u are right, it's not about me, its about my DD and I want better for her. Just because I am waiting for public housing, doesn't mean, we dont deserve to hold out for somewhere we feel comfortable. Cant believe I was actually going to throw caution to the wind with this!!! Thank you so much...

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expatinscotland · 05/08/2007 00:06

Housing only cares about getting the 'hard to let' place filled, Belly. YOU stick to what you care about: your daughter and her quality of life.

Hang in there!

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