I'm feeling really low atm - please cheer me up

[Miaou]

Don't know what's up with me - but I'm going through one of my "nobody likes me" phases at the moment. I suppose it's down to a total lack of confidence which, to my surprise, seems to be getting worse as I get older. The problem is, I see every little slight as a deliberate attempt to shut me out, even when logic tells me that it's simply not true! Please can you cheer me up a bit - even telling me to shut up and stop moaning may do the trick!

Kalex, I will consider that a firm date!!!

Thankyou everyone, I feel much happier now...

Give us an 'M' - M!

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MIAOU!

We love you!

OK, to firm up that date, how about the 6 October. Was already seriously considering taking the kids away. Just spoken to Glenn, and would take the ferry out on the 4th and return on the 6th.

Miaou - A tip my CT counsellor gave me was to assume that, if people are off towards you, it is to do with them, not you. Maybe they are feeling miserable/argued with dh/have PMT...etc etc. She told me in no uncertain terms that everything in life is NOT about me, although a symtom of me being depressed was to assume that it WAS!

Listen to the logical side of yourself more! I don't know you, but you seem lovely, and I love your name on here!

'symptom'

I know what you mean miaou about the present thing I remember everyones birthdays send cards etc I have one friend I have remembered her birthday every year for about 14 years yet she has never sent me a card for about 10 of those, I have about 3 friends like that.

oh Miaou.
I know the feeling. I always thing that everyone else has the perfect life and I am a hanger on with it all.
I havene't been here long and have manged to kill quite a few threads.
I went to M+T today and I was actually talked over by another couple of mums.
Then I get home and two old friends have called, and emilas form another old mate.
My ds has been lovely today,adn now I have an hour or so to myself so can indulge MN.
I think it is hard somteimes to realise that other people don't obsess as much as we do about being liked and listened to. They just get on with it and don't notice the quieter ones. (not that my mates would say I'm quiet, it's just the new people with babied that I have to mix with these days)
look at the mummies at the school gate thread, you are not alone!

Most people have down days but if you are having more than you can handle then you need to stop whatever you are doing and change direction.

List all the things that make you sad - next to them write if and how you could change them. Then list all the things that make you happy, sometimes we forget these.

This all may sound cheesy but it can help - it helped me. Few years back i suffered from depression and panic attacks. I dont now.

Anyway back to you - there are so many quick "pick me ups" exercise being a fast one.
What about some new achievements, what interests you, I have just done a first aid course - after i felt good about myself as i gained some skills that could help people and i met some nice people at the class.

When you feel down, always act on it. Dont wait for it to grow. The only person in the world that can make you happy is yourself so dont wait around for something to happen... get off your ass

... not saying your lazy

by the way it looks like i said i tackled my depression with my "list trick" - that would be a miracle break through.

the "list trick" just helped me to make simple but very effective changes to my life to make me happier.

Wow Kalex - am stunned! That will be so nice to meet you! Not met any mumsnetters before - I am really looking forward to it!

Sympathy. I think everyone has phases where they feel this way - insecure/paranoid/generally lousy. I can take ths smallest thing as being a slight against me. I think it comes from being sensitive.

And thank you everyone who has offered their advice and support - you have given me a much needed lift!

I like you too Miaou and am sending you (((hugs)) fwiw, I feel the same more times than I care to remember.

I think you're a sweetie and you make me laugh - and I always have an image of you tapping away at your keyboard before the generator powers down (or whatever generators do).

I get very down from time to time too and suffer from crises of confidence: they pass, I hope yours does soon (((HUGS)))

Hiya. Have booked places, I am looking froward to long walks on the beach! The B&B has 3 small kidds, so hopg I wont be stranded.

You have lots of time to semd me a wish list,

have to gp to bed. please reply that the dates r ok. not traveling to find u r away. if not please reply by 12 noon so can confrirm bookings. Am concerned u may be away

No Kalex, not away, sorry couldn't reply before now as no electricity until 5pm - hope it isn't too late. We shall be there when you come! PS the children at the b&b are delightful

Hi, miaou - sorry to hear you were worm-eating yesterday ("nobody likes me everybody hates me" etc), I also get spells of that from time to time - it doesn't take much either, just 2 or 3 posts on here being overlooked and I think there, I knew it, they all hate me.

Anyway I think you sound really really nice and I am looking forward to meeting you next month in Yorks or Lancs! XXX

Miaou, as others have mentioned, you are not alone. I too go through phases like this, sometimes when someone has to cancel a meeting etc i feel it is a personal thing rather than to do with circumstances. This leads to questioning on why I have no life etc etc and how I have achieved nothing. I always know that it is slightly irrational but it still leads to tears sometimes!