A good friend, who doesnt have children which is why I am asking here as I really don't think she would find it, has been steadily going down hill for the last year.
She has anorexia which she has kept under control in the past but is now back with a vengence and has lost probably half her body weight, she has become paranoid, thinks everyone is out to get her, obsessive. She is buying childrens clothes because she doesnt think adult clothes fit her anymore and yet then says people think she is a child, her mum died when she was 10 and her clothes are still in the wardrobe, she is obsessed with her mum and has never gotten past this event and is now living in the family home surrounded by all her mums possesions, she constantly says she wishes she was still a child and cant seem to cope anymore with day to day life. Am really concerned she is on the verge of a breakdown.
We (her friends) are all very concerned, but when we try and talk to her about getting some help she will admit there is a problem but not enough of one to do anything about it.
At what point would you intervene (tell her dad whats going on essentially) or would you never do that to a friend.
I guess what I am trying to assertain is, would you consider it the right thing to do because you are a friend, or would betraying her confidence/trust (she wont like us going behind her back and talking to her father) be more of a wrong thing to do?
I want to be a good friend and I'm just not sure that watching her slowly self destruct is the best course of action, but at the same time, she trusts me and I know she would see talking to her dad as a huge betrayl and may never speak to me again if I did.
I hope this makes sense, I just feel so confused as to what to do...