Best Friends hen Night vs Poorly ds

[LEMONADEGIRL]

Ds is 9 mths old and has come downwith a bad dose of chickenpox from nursery.

My bestfriend is having her hens night on Sat. We are due to be staying away the night ( approx 2hrs from where I live. I will be leaving 9am Sat and home Sun pm as we ar also booked in Spa,

Trouble is Thur night ds was admitted onto childrens ward of local hospital with high temp, which looks like now was onset of chickenpox as results proved inconclusive.

Really do not want to be away from ds at moment but feel bad letting b/f down. especially as will be bridesmaid.

Have thought of just cancelling spa and comming home early.

What to do, what would you do??

tia

Wh

I would stay with my LO - I would think that bf would understand.

Where is DS's dad?

he will be taking ds to stay with his parents as ds is not the best of sleepers and he wants extra support.

Would stay with my child, best friend will understand or she is no friend.

I didn't go to either of my SIL's because I couldn't afford it and I was bridesmaid for both. I think you have a better excuse!!

I would rather stay at home with DS.

Did mention it to bf yesterday, that ds was poorly and she sounded concerned that I might not be able to go. Majority of my friends do not have children and do not understand.

Chicken pox isn't the end of the world. Obviously it's not nice when he's so young, but he's going to be OK.

Go out and have a break and you'll be around to look after him tomorrow.

I think, come Saturday, your DS will be much much better, and you should go.

This isnt just a normal girly weekend or Saturday night outing, after all.

Your DH and his parents will be more than capable of coping with DS for the night.

TOTALLY agree with VVVQV.

If I were in your position I would assume dh could cope with both of my children - after all, I do this all day... why shouldn't he esp. if getting extra support?

I'd go. It's a few days til the weekend, OH & family can look after them fine.

i would go too as my DD is recovering from her chicken poxs but she wasnt dying - just tired...go on have fun x

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Thanks ladies, think just feel really guilty at moment, especially as have never left ds overnight before.

well i'll have you know icod this one involves pole dancing

I agree with VVV that it IS only CP, and chances are your DS will be alot better by Saturday, so if you WANT to go, I think DS will be OK without you.

If you DON'T want to go, then don't, you have a good enough "excuse" to not go, but be prepared to live with the "guilt trip"...

Two hours away isn't all that far either, and if you either want to come back early, or need to, you can.

mm22bys, that is exactly it, the guilt trip.

certain members of the family do not understand why I would go and also childless friends also would not understand why I would not go. Feel torn from both side.

Will end up in the wrong whatever I do.

dh will cope he does not need extra support.

ds is home now and will be fine.

go enjoy

what are you expecting to happen to ds? he has chicken pox not meningitis

thats a bit abrupt beetroot.

I do realise it is only cp, but feel guitly leaving him, as he was poorly and other people are making me feel guilty.

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sorry hot meant to be abrubt.

you will feel guilty all your life about your child so you may as well get used to it now.

You are really only ggoing away overnight. it is your best mate. you dh is perfecctly capable of looking after ds

me too cod me too

BUT think dad needs to step up as cod says.

I wonder if it was dh best mate stag do???

I would say go, but then I know that if it were me I wouldn't go.

Mind you if I had a partner to see to the dc I would I think.

Hen weekends are my worst subject at the mo, as friend is still trying to make me feel guitly for not going to hers (it's abroad).

I know icod, but tis the bf.

ds will be fine, I know. Hate feeling guilty really. Will go and have fun and leave the guilt to the way home.

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