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Argh I hate not knowing what i want to do with my life

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nutcracker · 14/09/2004 20:02

Feel free to ignore this, it's a bit of a rant but helps me to write it all down.

I hate hate hate not knowing what i want to do with my life. It makes me feel like i am back at school when everyone else had some idea of what they wanted to do and i just didn't have a clue.

It is such a horrible feeling and i soooo envy people who just know what they want to do and do it.

I have just been looking on the local college website at several courses in across such a broard range that i confuse myself.
I mean how do i know if i really want to do it or if i jsut fancy the idea.

Hmmm i'm talking crap again now.

Do they do careers advice for people my age i wonder. Mind you my careers advice at school was crap, and i just agreed to a YTS to get out of there.
Remember him asking me my interests and i said shopping, so he got me a job in Bewise, FFS.

O.k rant over, feeling slightly better now.

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Lonelymum · 14/09/2004 21:02

Wow to be 26 again! I am sure if you are this concerned about it, you will get something sorted soon. Hope you do anyway.

keziah · 14/09/2004 21:04

~Hi Nutcracker - Sympathy to you because I know just how you feel! I have worried about this for about 15 years now and have thought of so many jobs that I have gone full circle and started at the beginning of my list again!! People who know me laugh and say there she goes again with another crazy idea. Wonder what she will want to be next week...

I envy those people who completely love what they do and have always known what they wanted to do.

I am a full time mum and my husband always says just concentrate on that and enjoy it. Not that i disagree with him but I want the children to see me as having achieved something.

I like the advice you have been given here. I must take some of it too!

Good luck x

lavender1 · 14/09/2004 21:06

relaxed a little but as I got fired then not quite....feel free to chat about anything with this as still not sure myself!....if you don't mind me asking Nutcracker what was your favourite subject at school?

beansmum · 14/09/2004 21:11

i agree that its important to do something just for you, just wanted you to know that you're not failing your kids by not knowing what that something is yet

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nutcracker · 14/09/2004 21:15

Thanks Keziah and beansmum

Lav- My fav lesson was English

My dads just emiled me to say he is going to college to do french, and he's less sorted than me.

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lavender1 · 14/09/2004 21:19

you've mentioned nursing before....and wonder if you'd have an interest in some sort of couselling work (careers, and lots of others) as you mentioned English you like communicating with people a lot?

moomina · 14/09/2004 21:25

Total sympathy, Nutty. But I reckon that the people who really know what they want to do - and do it - are really few and far between. Most people just fall into their lives, really. And you're only 26 ffs!!

Can't really offer you much more advice than what you've already had from other MNers - but am in the same boat! Fear of failure is a killer. I have so many ideas and bottle them at the last minute. I reckon I've failed one way or another in every job I've done - chucked away some really promising stuff for stupid reasons too!!

And the only thing I really want to do (this week!) I have no experience of and no qualifications for...

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nutcracker · 14/09/2004 21:28

Whats that Moomina ????

Don't think i have enough confidence to do counselling or nursing or anything like that, although i wouold love to do nursing or speech therapy.

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beansmum · 14/09/2004 21:30

just realised i'll be 25 by the time i graduate and was planning to wait til ds starts school to decide what to do. so i'll be.....28 before i even think about it! (maths student but i had to add that up on my fingers)

you've got plenty of time!

moomina · 14/09/2004 21:30

Have got this crazy idea about becoming a midwife. Am clearly demented, but it's the only thing that's ever fired me with enthusiasm.

Don't even have biology GCSE tho...

moomina · 14/09/2004 21:32

But if you trained for nursing or whatever, Nutty, don't you think that would give you the confidence?

lavender1 · 14/09/2004 21:36

you should go for it, follow your dreams!!

wild · 14/09/2004 21:38

Do you have any ideas about things that you would really like to do but think that are impractical/impossible, or just no idea at all? I have always found that people who are not sure about what their 'life-plan' is are quite interesting and open well that's been my excuse for the last 37 years . If there is something you have thought you might like to do but have dismissed as impossible that's a good starting point. Would it have to be something to make money, for instance? with children I guess it usually has to be, which is why I do what I do and not paint in a garrett . I know exactly what you mean about the 'back at school' thing tho but I would not swap my life for any of the born planners' Not much help really but at least you know you're not alone, in fact I think 'our' type are pretty thick on the ground, (some in disguise). Take care

keziah · 14/09/2004 21:41

This site (www.prospects.ac.uk) keeps me occupied with new imaginary careers when I'm feeling desperate or haven't heard anything on radio 4 that I fancy doing! Seriously, every time I listen it sets me off on something. Author, food critic, mediator (sp!?), artist, etc etc etc - its exhausting.

I think it does come down a lot of the time to what you mentioned - fear of failure and lack of confidence. At least that is true for me.

While you are thinking of lots of different careers and never comitting to something and seeing it through there is no chance that you will fail.

Sorry thats a cliche really and i'm not suggesting thats like you at all but it is like me! Its all controllable when its still in my head! In there I can be the greatest writer of all time!!!

wild · 14/09/2004 21:42

oh took so long typing lst post completely lost plot
yes, so you do know then! nursing/speech therapy can't be too much harder than bringing up 2/3 children, you get breaks and stuff!

wild · 14/09/2004 21:43

Do you have any ideas about things that you would really like to do but think that are impractical/impossible, or just no idea at all? I have always found that people who are not sure about what their 'life-plan' is are quite interesting and open well that's been my excuse for the last 37 years . If there is something you have thought you might like to do but have dismissed as impossible that's a good starting point. Would it have to be something to make money, for instance? with children I guess it usually has to be, which is why I do what I do and not paint in a garrett . I know exactly what you mean about the 'back at school' thing tho but I would not swap my life for any of the born planners' Not much help really but at least you know you're not alone, in fact I think 'our' type are pretty thick on the ground, (some in disguise). Take care

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nutcracker · 14/09/2004 21:48

I don't think i have the right level of comittment for nursing.

See on other days i just fancy working in a travel agents or becoming a teachers assistant.
I think thjose things seem good because there isn't too much respnsibilty required then.

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