Slept with married man

[Hannay]

so I know I'm a disgrace I couldn't be more ashamed of myself!
I got hammered and slept with a married man from work!
I'm not making any excuses as I know he's married so I'm as much to blame, literally can't excuse what we did! I'm absolutely riddled with guilt!

There is nothing there between us and it was literally just a drunken fumble

Am I wrong that I don't think he should tell
His wife

Why throw away his marriage for that

Please no abuse I'm absolutely disgusted in myself

Go easy on yourself.If this was last night,you'll still be hungover and anxious.Are you married?If not,you haven't broken any vows.He is the one who is married and if he had n't slept with you it'd be with somebody else.You've said it meant nothing,he probably feels the same.Has he said he's going to tell his wife?If he has n't it's highly unlikely he's going to.His marriage is none of your concern anyway. Rest up,be kind to yourself,get an STI test and don't get so drunk next time that you make decisions that you're not comfortable with.

If as you say it was a drunk one off and you're already appalled at your behaviour then just chalk it up and move on.

Get yourself checked for STIs, remain professional at work, and in future watch your alcohol consumption so you don't get in situations where you exercise poor judgement.

Just pretend it never happened, he probably can't remember either, carry on as normal, blank it from your mind and try not to get so drunk again with work colleagues

I would have a very brief talk with him. Tell him it was a horrible mistake that will never be repeated, and you feel tremendous guilt. From this point forward, you never want to discuss it again.

No I'm not married! I'm a single mum I have been single since January and genuinely just been making some daft decisions as my heads been a mess!

Yes it was last night so I am feeling rough and anxious hopefully after a good sleep I'll calm down!

Just can't stop thinking about his wife and what a horrible person I am x

There's nothing you can do now,it's done. Let him worry about his wife,not you.You are not a horrible person,you're just a person who has made a wrong decision when drunk,who has n't? Instead of attaching your anxiety to thinking about his wife,which serves no purpose concentrate on you.You've only been single a few months,it was probably nice to feel wanted again and attractive. Stop worrying,this time next week you'll be feeling so much better and when you see him next,just nod and say something like " let's just forget that happened." He'll be feeling awkward too,so will be relieved you've acknowledged the indiscretion and that you don't want to take things any further. Have a nice bath,phone a good friend,read a book,clean the house but waste no more headspace on this x

Just a quick question: Would any of the women on here but quite so forgiving if it was their husband who'd done the cheating?

Married men are out of bounds. There's no excuse, but it's happened and you can't change it now.

Standing tall I completely agree

I said myself absolutely no excuses

Hope it wasn't my husband.

It's done. Your not the one married. Hopefully his wife will find him out. He's probably got form for it. Just get an Sti test and hope your never in her position