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Just crashed the car horrible man sympathy needed please

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clairabelle · 14/09/2004 12:35

On the way from Sainsburys to get dd from school, not late but didn't have time to be held up IYKWIM overtook a stationary bus and some horrible man pulled out straight in front of me to go over the road. I slammed on the brakes but hit his backend. Pulled over on to the side of the road and had to gesticulate to get him to come over as ds was in the car and couldn't leave him. Car looks like a right off couldn't get out of my door anyway gave him my details but hadto ask him to ring me or dh later if he wanted anymore info as was going to be late for dd. He was horrible to me then saying I couldn't go anywhere until we had sorted out whose fault it was etc, he said I just don't know where you came from. At this point I just burst into tears as needed to go. Got to school and I haven't got his details. Aghhh! Feeling very sorry for myself.

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Thomcat · 14/09/2004 12:39

So sorry. it toook me a couple of days to get over it when I went into the back of a woman who stopped suddenly on a wet night. I cried lots for a couple of days. It was a horrible experience, my sympathies.

NomDePlume · 14/09/2004 12:39

Oh hon , poor you.

gothicmama · 14/09/2004 12:40

don't worry - it is not up to yu to determine blame most insurance companies advise you not to so maybe he is trying it on - calmly draw a detailed plan of wht happened - sorry and big hugs hope this help s somewhat

woodpops · 14/09/2004 12:41

Poor you, are you and your ds both ok???

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clairabelle · 14/09/2004 12:47

Thank you we are both ok thank god, just started to sink in what could have happened very teary. All I could think of was dd waiting for us it's only her 4th day. To top it all off I reported it to the Police and the lady there shouted at me because she couldn't hear me because ds was crying. Dh being lovely though although probably secretly thinking bl##dy women and cars [weak smile]Ds gone for a nap and dd watching Postamn Pat so I'm feeling sorry for myself on MN and dreading this man ringing me.

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libb · 14/09/2004 12:47

He sounds like the sort to follow it all through so I expect you'll get his details soon enough, and after that the insurance company will sort out the details. I had an accident once and he was the same with me, saw me as some dizzy little girl in an old banger but after filling in the details for the insurance company I didn't hear anything again. I still don't know to this day whether it was his fault or mine but no news is good news!

I am just glad that you and DD are okay.

mckenzie · 14/09/2004 12:48

are you and DS okay though clairabelle?
I'm with gothicmama, write down as soon as you can what actually happened, before you forget and then give that to your insurance company and let them sort it out.

Have you got anything nice to do this afternoon to take your mind off it?

libb · 14/09/2004 12:48

It is certainly isn't his place to point blame! Lots of hugs to you xxx

PicadillyCircus · 14/09/2004 12:52

Sending you lots of hugs - really glad you and DS are all right and grr at the horrible man.

anorak · 14/09/2004 12:54

You are not supposed to sort out who is to blame. The insurance companies do that. The only obligation you have is to provide your name, address and insurance details. In fact the insurance companies always tell you not to admit any blame even if you think it is your fault. You could be mistaken and then the other party would use your words against you.

Gingerbear · 14/09/2004 12:57

Oh what a horrible shock! I hope you and DS are OK now! Try and write down everything that happened - it helps later with the insurance company.

MeanBean · 14/09/2004 13:27

Clairabelle, you don't have to sort anything out at all and he is legally obliged to give you his details so he has behaved incorrectly by not doing so. The thing to do in an accident is refuse to admit liability, otherwise your insurance becomes null and void, then exchange insurance details. There is no need to have a discussion or any arguments about it, that's what you pay your insurance premiums for - it's up to them to sort it out. If you got his car number plate, call the police and report him for refusing to give you details. If he calls you, then take the insurance details, but refuse to discuss anything else and tell him to speak to his insurance company about it, because you're not interested in speaking to him.

Go and have a nice bath or watch a film or something - it's a horrible shock, but no-one was injured and don't worry about him - he's a typical bully and you can always tell him that he should call back when your DH comes home, as if he wants a fight, he can choose a more appropriate target than women and children.

suzywong · 14/09/2004 13:41

lots of sympathry clairabelle

I had my first prang in 15 years last week and I know just how flustering it is when you are shocked and the kids are waiting in the car.
And then there's the aftershock and the grisly thought of what could have happened.
Take it easy and let the insurance company take the strain

FWIW the man I turned right in to at the surprisingly non-filtered traffic lights was completely dodgy and gave me a mobile phone number with half the required digits and only his christian name, I didn't notice in the after math, his loss though as we are fully comp, but I did feel really yucky at having been lied to.

Hope you get back in the saddle soon

woodpops · 14/09/2004 14:07

If you don't feel like you can cope with talking to this man ask him to call back when your dh is in and he can speak to him. Lot's of hugs for you cb.

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clairabelle · 14/09/2004 14:11

Thanks he hasn't phoned yet, am consoling myself with galaxy and tea. I did give him dh's work no so maybe he'll phone him rather than deal with hysterical crying woman again. Am a bit worried in case he doesn't call. Because I didn't get his details will this negate the claim?

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sis · 14/09/2004 14:12

sympathies Clairabelle, if it is any comfort, I am sure I would have burst into tears too! He sounds vile and I'm glad you and your son are okay.

Dingle · 14/09/2004 14:35

Oh, clairbbelle,I know it must be hard but please try to think of it as just a piece of metal, and that thank godness you weren't hurt. It may take a while for you to get over it emotionally.
A while ago a young lad flew round the corner on his bike, on the pavement, and straight out onto the crossing in front of me. I was lucky enough to have mentally noted him ,seen he was on the pavement but in a way still been prepared. Thank god there was nothing coming the other way- I swerved but he bumped down the whole side of my car. I can remember looking in my mirror and seeing him get up, I honestly thought I'd killed him! I was "lucky" enough that DH was with me-but I was a complete and utter wreck dealing with it.
I am shuddering as I type this!!
Please don't concern yourself over this stupid man- get your info, as detailed as possible, into the insurance co. and let them do their job- you pay enough for their service.
Hugs.Dingle.

Hulababy · 14/09/2004 20:36

Oh what a horrid thing Clairabelle. I am glad to hear that you and DS are okay. Enjoy the chocolate and try and relax and not worry about it too much tonight. Take care!

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