Just started school ~ when do they make new friends?

[breeze]

My Ds has been to school for 2 morning now and while talking about it in detail today he mentioned that no-one plays with him and he has no friends, atm there are only older children there, he is one of about 8 and only 2 of the 8 went to my sons pre-school and they are good friends and not letting Ds join in, when the younger kids go in a fortnight he will be with at least 3 friends, just wandered how long it took your children to make friends as Ds going to school is upsetting for me anyway (problems he had at pre-school worrying he wont settle, make friends etc etc etc).
He does have a birthday party invite next week (all the children got one) so that might be the chance, as those 2 days all but 30 mins (while we had chat with head etc etc) I have been there.

Also reassurance that I am not on my own in worrying about this.

It sounds v normal Breeze. It takes a few weeks of swapping and changing about , deciding who they want to hook up with, before any real freindships are established imo. Ds1 is almost 6, and when I ask him what he did or who he played with, I often get the stock answer of "nothing" and "noone", which is generally not true,but v common. If you are still worried after a couple of weeks, go and see the teacher, and ask how he is settling in, maybe ask them to watch how he interacts in the playground, if he has any friends. They would be v happy to do that.

breeze I went to pick up dd yesterday ans was devestated to see her in the playground talking to the teacher and not any other children. I casually mentioned on the way home and she said she was just getting used to everybody and then she would decide who to play with, she's obviously not bothered but I am having a few anxious moments would hate her to be Poppy no mates!

How is ds breeze everything sorted now with the waterworks?

That department seems to have sorted itself out, looks like it might have been connected to school.

He never seemed that bothered about it, i'll give it a week or so then if the same mention it to the teacher, its a shame that where I live I can see the school playground and desperate not to look at the window to see if he is playing happily, I know it would put my mind at rest, but then if he is in the corner I'll get worse.

Don't look breeze

I don't want to depress you but your original post could have been written by me four years ago when ds1 started school (even down to the party invite which everyone received). Regretably, even though he is now in Yr 4, he still does not have real friends (as I remember them from my schooldays) although he has had some lesser friendships and gets a few party invites each year. Ds2 started school 2 years ago and was everyone's buddy (went to a party a week in the first year) but now seems less interested in friends. DD has just started this week and is still at the stage of playing with playgroup friends - not yet interested in new friends.
What I am trying to say is, it may still be very early days for your son but don't let the situation drag on for weeks as I did with ds1. Everyone told me it takes time for children to make friends and it takes boys longer than it takes girls, but I don't think that is necessarily true. Think of children bonding in the park or on holiday. I wish I had done more for my son (invited people around whether he saw them as friends or not). Instead, every time I went to see his teacher, all we talked about was his inability to mix with the others, and this led to conflicts in the playground. I am a teacher myself and did some supply teaching at ds's school one day when he had been at school for nearly two years. At playtime, I glanced out the window to see who he was playing with and the image of him wandering around alone will haunt me forever. PLEASE do something for your son if you think he is going the same way as mine.

I have to admit that I did look out the window and was suprised what I saw, he was like the pied piper, he was running around in the play ground and had about 6 or 7 kids following him. Asked him that night who he played with and he said no-one today, when I said oh but I saw you doing ...... he said oh yeah I played with x x x x x x x I didn't think you meant those kids.
Loving every minute of it.
Again worrying over nothing.