domestic violence survivours

[slinkyjo]

didnt know where to put this but i need some help and advice, i fled dv almost 2 years ago went to womens aid and finally started a new life, the only problem is i have constant nightmares about my x its driving me mad, every night i wake up in a state after dreaming about him about to beat me up again and relive the fear of him, i want them to stop and i just cant do it i dont know what to do i hate it

have you had any kind of counselling?

im in counselling at the moment but that doesnt help with the dreams

I'm 5 years on from dv, i used to get nightmares, i promise they will stop eventually.

For me personally mine stopped not long after i had, had some closure, i saw my ex, i wasn't expecting to, it was about 3yrs after i had got out, i had changed alot, wore make up, skirts, had surgery etc i ended up just freezing to the spot while he told me how nice i looked etc (i never used to get compliments only put downs) i said "its because i'm not with you anymore" and walked away with my head held high, as soon as i got inside i burst into tears but for me it was over i was strong, i wasn't scared anymore he couldn't hurt me or get to me that was the beginning of the end.

If you haven't had counselling then you definately should have it.

i did see him a few weeks back because the so called systemmakes me take my kids to a contact centter much to my dd distress, all he did was slag me off (infront of my dc) he was still to angry for me to say anything like that to him, i know he wants to kill me the courts have it on record and i think thats what does it the fact they know what he wants to do to me but dont stop him