Telling other peoples children off

[woodpops]

Basically there is a woman who goes to our toddler group with her 2 very unruley boys. THey run riot, constantly bully, turn lights off, throw toys etc and their mother doews nothing doesn't say a word. A couple of weeks ago after her sons having a go at my ds several times one was hitting him with a toy. This boys mother saw what was going on and said nothing so I lost it and shouted very loud 'for crying out loud do somthing' to which she just said boys don't do that and then said boys will be boys. Well I know my ds and most of the other little boys at the group wouldn't dream of doing what her kids do. Anyway to the point, back at toddlers on Friday I was sat with a couple of friends having a cuppa and a chat while ds and dd were playing. They then started to fight over a crayon which I could see but it wasn't a nasty fight so I was just keeping my eye on them. To which this woman (the mother of the 2 boys) went over to my ds and dd snatched the crayon from them and told them off for fighting. I got really diffensive, she doesn't tell her own kids off so don't start telling mine off. I don't mind any of my friends telling my kids off but this woman really wound me up.

I would have told her off for interfering with my kids and advised her to keep an eye on her own!

A woman told my son off in the park once and he was really upset. I pulled her up about it and didn't really understand what she had told him off for - something about her son and mine were playing a chasing game and her son had fallen over - couldn't quite get why it was my son's fault rather than a hazard of the game.

I basically told her I was not happy that she had made my son cry - I discipline my kids myslef and if she thought they needed talking to then she should tell me in future.

She blustered but agreed she would. I felt better but I must admit I had to control the first violent urge I'd had since about age 11!!