Am hoping for ideas on where is best to move for a fresh start. Not really fussed about where so have the entire counties in England to choose from but not too far up north though if possible as would need to make occasional trips to London to see my older children we won’t be coming with myself and my youngest 3, DD12, DS1- 10 & DS2- 8, and possibly my DH if that’s what I decide.
Basically myself and my 3 DC are being harassed and intimidated by my older 5DC’s grandparents and they just won’t leave us alone, constantly trying to cause both me and my younger children hassle, making malicious reports to social services ( all proven to be complete lies), trying to get me into trouble with my PIP as I’m disabled and wheelchair bound and still they care calling the DWP saying I’m claiming too much in benefits etc, they even wrote into the local council as my house is a council house I’ve lived in for 17 years and raised all of my children in, they wrote and told them that I’d vacated the property and have them a date that I’d be ‘moved’ out by and it was only as the council sent me an amended council tax bill that I discovered what had happened and managed to get it all stopped as the potential would have been coming home to find locks changed, our belongings and furniture in skip of at local tip, and myself and my kids would have then been homeless and there shows no let up in their attempts to cause us trouble and harrass and intimidate us. My younger children are scared we’ll lose our home and I’m also concerned too and with the extra worry of our money that is used to feed and clothe my children may be stopped without warning esp if they ring them pretending to be me again and say kids no longer with me to have it stopped etc. There are no limits as to just how low they are willing to stoop just to get back at me.
I was 16 when I met their 20 year old son and even back then, they hated me from first sight and I was never good enough for their son because I cane from a broken home and had been raised from 9 to 15 by my Nan and my mum wasn’t all that bothered in being a mum due to having a new boyfriend. And some 25 years later after first meeting their son we got together and had 5 children, although there was major violence on his part, mental illness, drug use and extreme paranoid and after he had yet again raped me and held a meat cleaver to my throat I kicked him out and never looked back, but then found out was pregnant for a 5th time but knew I would and could never go back to him due to increase in his irrational and violent behaviour.
I met someone whilst was pregnant and even though was def not looking for anything we fell in love and we together moved on with our lives with the children, adding another 3 (the youngest ones) to our family and all was going really good until in 2013 in March I think my ex was diagnosed with leukaemia and a bone marrow transplant was the only thing that would help him
long term, his one sister and her husband were no match and as he was the father to 5 of my kids I got myself tested and even my new husband said if I wasn’t a match he’d then be tested before we’d even consider asking the kids if they wanted to be tested as kids was only 13,12, 10, 8 & 6 so didn’t want to have to ask them unless absolutely had to. I was found to be a match and me and the kids were over the mood as knew this could potentially save their dads life, but his dad chose to not even bother to tell anyone, not his son, wife or the doctors that a match had been found as he would rather take the chance a match would eventually be found and that he wasn’t impressed with the match being me and would rather risk his son than take anything from me. Sadly 18 months later my children’s dad had died from the leukaemia and pneumonia. An alternative match was a bentually found, in Germany, 15 months after initial diagnosis and what with all the chemo and other treatment etc by the time he finally had the transplant his body was so weak he got pneumonia and was dead within 2 weeks of the transplant and despite the docs saying that a transplant when treatment first started and as early as possible was the best chance and only change he had but it had been withheld from him just because his parents didn’t like me and didn’t want to have to thank me even though I didn’t want their thanks, I was doing it for him and the children so they could know their dad growing up and that was denied from them due to the grandparents hatred of me!!!
So although I could and would have donated to save their son, they blame me for his death, that I moved on with my life and got married etc and these recent actions from them just show how bitter and twisted and vindictive they really are and it’s got to the point where only way to get them off our backs and leave us alone and to be able to live a happy carefree life again will be to move somewhere new where no one knows us and to also change our surnames so we can’t ever be traced.
But moving to a completely new area where you don’t know anyone is hard as I don’t know what the areas like, areas to avoid, how busy it is as I couldn’t live in a city as I’ve lived my whole life in a seaside town that’s not all that busy except by the local shopping complex at Xmas and sale time and occasionally school pick up and drop offs etc. Although I know it’s not anywhere near as busy as the city of Canterbury we visited recently to sightsee but that definitely showed me that we’d be happiest in a town or village but as long as it has a primary school and secondary school for the kids and your local Tesco’s or ASDA do home delivery then anywhere and everywhere is a possible option open to us. A hospital nearby would be helpful due to my hospital visits but I wouldn’t mind travelling for half hour or so, an hour at most. And would be good if there were council houses available there as I can get a swap with my current house and I want to be moved asap so any ideas or details about places any of you live in or know of would be fantastic esp as it’s like a kid in a sweet shop at the moment as too many places to go to choose from and not having been before have no idea of the hidden bits tourists wouldn’t know.
Just please, no places in Kent though please as Kent is most definitely not an option as it’s kent I’m trying to escape from.lol.
So any help would be gratefully received. Thank you all in advance. Xxxxxx