Sick and tired, working my arse off, unappreciated, unoticed, (sob)

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anybody else feels like this?

In a word, yes - everyday. I'm a WOHM. Are you?

I work from home, part time, when my oldest is in school, and my youngest in nursery. But I hardly ever have time to focus on work, as there are doctors appointments, domestic admin and issues, my working days are always divided into sections with not enough time to actually get any work done, and I am falling behind, and my youngest is demanding, I am just flapping about feeling frustrated and fat, too tired for anything in the evenings, never have time to do exercises, and nobody realizes how hard I work and how knackered I am.

Oh no, you poor thing? Do you have a DP who can help out?

Sorry ignore first question mark. I think I should be in bed!

My husband is not much help, he is overworked too, and he has brought houseguests in this month, and he just doesnt recognise that along with all the family laundry, I now do even more (3 loads a day) and the dishwasher runs twice a day now, I feel I am constantly cleaning and tidying up. sorry, I am just feeling so sorry for myself. He zonked off to sleep hours ago. He came home from work while I was cooking, rested while I looked after two kids and got food sorted, and crashed out on the sofa leaving the kitchen to me, and the kids to me to shower and get to bed. Then he came up and laid down with them and they all fell asleep. so lucky him.

I went to college got two, two year degrees one in child developement and one in business management, and now I stay home with the kids. I homeschool three boys and also care for my 18 month old.

Now I am going to school to get a four year in business management. No one notices the mom who doesn't bring home a paycheck. I am fortunate though that I have a good man.

Forgive me for asking an obvious question here, but have you told him how you feel? and if so what does he say?

I do bring home a paycheck. But if this continues, I wont, as I cant get any work done! My mind and my life is stuffed with so many issues and frustrations I cant even concentrate. Working from home was fine till I got child number two. My mind is torn in all direction and I feel I am losing it. I am turning into a complete vegetable, and I have a masters degree, and I feel like an idiot who cant manage to arrange my life and my time. But there is always outside factors such as houseguest complaining she needs vitamin C as she thinks she develops cold, and similar shite I have to deal with as I am home. And the blooming laundry. And cooking for an army.

I cant tell him how I feel. Not getting through. We are supposed to go on holiday on saturday in our newly purchased campervan, he is supposed to order cycleracks for it, and we are supposed to discuss our itinerary as we have dates restraints because we are doing a 7000 mile trip and we have to be certain places at certain times (driving to see both our families at their holiday destinations opposite sides of europe), and if he doesnt get the van sorted our trip will be delayed, and he cant even find time to discuss this! My brain is boiling with unresolved issues.

I think you need some help. If you can afford to hire some part time help it would really lessen your burden. Also try taking a B complex, it gives energy and helps your body deal with stress better.

Im currently studying part time, working part time and looking after the house so i know where you are cooming from.

Trust me i knowm those occasions when it gets that bad you are stood with the glammed up mums in the playground with a full face of slap (quickly-applied) and hiding a pj top under your coat! as you havent had the time to get ready.

Discuss it with him and get the houseguest to make other arrangement soon or to sort themselves out!

Take care

You do need to discuss it, run him a bath when the children are in bed and once he is in, sit and chat to him.

He will have to stay and listen well at least til he has finished his wash!

Sounds daft but it works for me, and if they make you mad or angry its that whole visualise people naked to calm the moment thing!

Thanks for your replies. I should catch some sleep, the kids will be up at the crack of dawn, now doubt demanding breakfast and entertainment!

take care
Night