I have been good friends with X since secondary school. We swap birthday pressies, xmas pressies for ourselves and our children ever since. Generally speaking I have always done the phoning (she lives in USA) even though her calls are cheaper and her dh is on a fortune. She tends to ring me at school times or really late into the night when its obviously earlier there so I invariably end up returning call when I get in/next day. My dh goes mad at me because we can't afford for me to have an hour long conversation to friend in USA but she has never understood why he's like that. Anyway I sent over bday presents for her and 2 of her children who have bdays in the early part of the year (admittedly wouldn't have got to the kids in time but it is all part of my charm). I had an email from her a couple of weeks ago which said she was sending my bday present back here with her mum who was visiting. Now I don;t have a problem with any presents being late etc and fully appreciate a hand delivered parcel is less likely to go missing. Anyway no parcel has yet turned up - still not a problem. Just had an email from her literally saying "just to let you know im not doing xmas presents this year" sent to me and another friend whom she has bitched about to me for not making an effort. I have since about March not called her because I am fed up of doing all the calling and being there for her and it not being reciprocated and then getting in the shit from my dh for running up large bills. I do know that she is happy to run email friendships with other friends but seems to think I should be at her beck and call on the end of a phone. I really feel choked by this email as I feel she no longer wants to know me as I have not called (she has not either but she is particularly moody and stubborn). Part of me still wants to send her children presents as I don't give to receive but not sure if she is snubbing me....I do feel sad