Changing your name before you get married

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Hi all.

My son was born last July and we gave him my partners surname. He was bothered as he is the only male and carrying on the name etc.

I wasn't that bothered at the time plus we have discussed marriage so hopefully one day I would have the same name.

Only thing is now it really bothers me. I hate not having the same name as my son.

I am prepared to change my name by deed poll but my partner asked what would happen if or when we get married as in the ceremony we would both have the same last name.

Can anyone advise what does happen and if this would be an issue

You’d just keep the deed poll name. Nobody has to change their name after marriage. If it’s really bothering you change it but similarly if you’re that committed and thinking of marriage why not just do that quickly and quietly?

Orchidflower1 to be honest if I end up changing it by deed poll I don't see the reason to get married. I would be happy to just nip down the registry office and just get married the two of us for £48 but he wants family there and a party after

Best of luck with whatever you decide op😀

Does he want to get married?

Would be more secure for you if you were, rather than just changing name - equal rights to the home and money in event of a split, instant beneficiaries of will etc