Trying for a girl

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Does anyone know anything about Dr Shettles method for conceiving boy/girl? Anyone with any experience of it? I'd ideally like a girl next (only because we have ds already), so any suggestions for success?

Don't be so pessimistic, theres nothing wrong with trying to give nature a helping hand. She makes it quite clear that it is not 100% and you should only really follow it if at the end of the day it doesn't matter what sex you get.

Did you read the bit about people that follow the rules and yet still get the other sex baby due to not being accurate enough or their partner having a high/low sperm count. She also talks about people who have followed it more than once i.e it didn't work the first time, so they did it again and it did work the second time.

Hey if it work it works, if it doesn't it doesn't, at least it increased the odds!!

Carrieboo I already have a dd so really don't mind what I have - but was just saying that I had inadvertantly followed the books advice (apart from the orgasm part ) so it would be interesting to see what I had!

Carrieboo

That info you posted could be right. I wondered if I had conceived in different cycles as ds was nearly 2lb heavier than dd

I've just looked at the Rightbaby.com website and I literally fell off my chair! Has anyone really paid 250 quid to try to have the gender of their choice? I'd like a girl but not that badly!!!!

Ghosty, I was going to do it, but then changed my mind. I did follow something else for a girl that I got from a NZ website costing £20, can't remember the name though, and I'm now 23 weeks pg with a girl!!!!

Paula1, please try to remember, I'd be very interested!

Me too, me too!

Hi Batters,

Sorry, just came back online and saw your message. Did your friend have a termination because she was pregnant with a girl and not a boy?

If that is the case I think that is one of the most tragic, awful things I have ever heard!

I am not a pro-lifer or anything - I don't think that I could have an abortion personally (especially now that I have had one child) but I think that people have their valid reasons and it is a matter of choice.

But to terminate because you don't like the sex of your child is just too awful.

Am very upset and want to cry.

(Of course, if she had a different reason for her termination then obviously I feel sad for her and what she has been through)

Enid sorry to jump on you I though you were laughing at the idea. It tends to create extremes of views, people either laugh or are dying to know more and when you are going through the process the laughing is quite hurtfull.

kkgirl - that could well of been the case esp. if that was your gut feeling. Years back I read out about a woman how had 2 wombs etc. and even though she had preg. hormones in her system to stop her ovulating mid preg. the second womb etc. produced another egg and she started a second pregnancy. They new she had twins and one was smaller but they did not find out about the 2 wombs etc. until they did a c-section. I think the babies where about 3 months apart!.

I think terminating because of the sex is one of the reasons they do not like to tell people at scans. Its a shame but a lot of people do get that desperate to have a particular sex that they will do that (i.e. woman made to feel like she has let every one down not producing a son and heir, or havinging had 4 say of one sex and wanting the other sex).

I haven't seen any pay methods except for the medical sperm spining where they seperate the sperm and only fertilise with one sex sperm. V. expensive as have to undergo fertility treatment to do it.

Finally got period back this week so can now start monitoring my cycle. Yipeeee!!

hi Carrieboo,
Not meaning to rain on your parade here and I hope you have great fun trying to conceive but am interested in how you will know whether this method has worked? Say you get your girl- how will you know that it's because you followed the book and not down to something else? I'm a bit of a cynic about this sort of thing, I think. It seems to me that since roughly 50% of babies are boys and 50% girls any of these advisors have a 50% chance of being "right" about the sex of your baby without doing a thing and if they are unlucky with their prediction they can claim you didn't follow their advice properly... anyone could offer a such a service and clean up, surely?

Your right I'm sure she's got an explanation for everything, if she didn't she couldn't really get away with writeing a book! Basically whether all the stuff she writes in her book is fact I don't know, but the stuff about the different characteristics of x and y sperm is fact (its taught/written in biology), so I figure that I may as well use nature to boost the chances. I'm not bothered whether it proves her theory right or wrong, and if I get my girl it doesn't realy matter!

I guess if you do it to increase the chances then good luck, but if you do it pinning all your hopes on it it can be a bit dangerous.

Oh Batters, how very sad. It's just that you think of all those people who try for years to have a baby and go through the IVF thing and all those people who lose babies in the womb for one reason or another and your heart breaks for them and then someone goes and terminates because they don't like the sex! You are right, it is THEIR right but I still can't understand it. It would be nice to have a girl to balance our family out but a healthy baby is more important.

Batters/Ghosty, that has also upset me deeply too. We also would like a girl as we have one boy already. I'm afraid I can't imagine what sort of person would do such a thing - I know she is your friend Batters, but if it was me, my friendship would be severely strained, to say the least.

Batters, have just read this and think it too terrible for words.

Batters, what a sad story. How did she get a termination? I didn't think being the 'wrong' sex was a valid reason for termination, if it was in the UK?

I cant believe someone would do that. How would she have felt if they had sexed the child wrong, as has happened on many occasions and it turned out to be the little boy she had wanted.

Batters, this woman sounds like she has some real 'issues' to sort out. I really wanted a girl 1st time around (dh was desperate for a girl too) but there's no way I would have even contemplated a termination for a boy. I used to think my hospital's strict veto on sexing babies from scans was ridiculous - but I understand that certain groups within the community would prefer to abort girls, so they don't give them the opportunity to find out. I suppose anyone can go privately though, and make up stories.

Oh Batters, it seems it doesn't just end with the loss of a life, but with changed relationships with freinds and all sorts of ramifications. When you read what Marina and her family have just been through, it's hard to imagine someone voluntarily putting themselves through that for such a mediocre reason. I'm pro-choice, but there are limits.....

There was a brief article in the Sunday paper yesterday about a clinic in Belgium that offers a 'discreet service' for choosing the sex of your baby. It costs around £4,000 and you send in the sperm and they take out whichever ones you don't 'need'. They have a 91% success rate for girls and something like a 72% success rate for boys.

I don't agree with it, but have never minded which sex I have (although am pleased that i have a girl already).

Jessi and Ghosty, I've remembered the name of the website that I used this time that appears to have done the trick re conceiving a girl - www.planbaby.com No denying that there is a 50/50 chance anyway, but who knows. Also, it's not very expensive, and doesn't involve anything horrendous (just a list of foods to eat/avoid, and a calendar based on that chinese thing)

Thanks Paula1, I'll check it out!