A big downer

[woodpops]

For some reason I've gone on a real downer this afternoon. Hate me, hate the way I look. I don't even get time to put make up on before work in a morning now. Just barely enough time to scrape my hair back into a pony tail. Yet when I started this job 5 years ago I wouldn't dream of leaving the house without make up on. I don't feel I have a life I just exist. I love ds,dd and dh to death. Dh isn't very loving never tells me he loves me or gives me a cuddle. I'd better not go on as I'm at work and filling up as I'm typing this. I've got that horrid lump in your throat feeling, you know the one.

How long have you felt like this? hate to say it, and not being patronising, but I feel a bit like this when I am premenstrual - are you? Any big stresses in life at the mo?

Felt like it for about 6 months. Having a shit day at work today which doesn't help. My g'ma was also diagnosed with cancer of the pancreas and liver a few weeks ago.

Sounds like you need to book a hair appointment or spa treatment and have some me time. Could dh take the kids off your hands this weekend so you could go shopping? Is there someone you could go ot for a drink with (work pla etc) so you could get glammed up?! Can you get up earlier or dh get up with kids so you have time to put makeup on in the mornings as that might make you feel better?

Hi Woodpops!

Go out to a big shopping centre and look for a beautiful size 10 little balck dress. Then create a mental picture of you wearing said dress at a big Christmas party

You are going to look fantastic in less than 4 months time girl! Just you wait!!

BTW - so sorry to hear about your Grandma!

posts crossed. I'd say if it's been going on for 6 months you need to see a gp.

how are you coping with news with your grandma? I think maybe (and I could be wrong) that the way you're feeling is partly due to your dh. If he's not showing you much affection towards you, then it can lead to low self confidence/esteem? Have you tried talking to him? His initial reaction may think you're just being silly, but if it gets you down you should say something. Maybe he doesnt realise he does it? I am often feeling quite low about myself and hate to look at myself in the mirror, and its usually those days when Im being affected by something else that is causing me to be down or stressed out. Hope Im helpful, probably not. xxx