Social services

[sillymummy111]

Hi my partner has been accused of inappropriately touching an under age girl released without charge so far and now social services are having a meeting about my children and I'm in bits 😭 I've never had social services involved before and I'm petrified they will take my children 1 is 10 and 1 is 3. We are good parents and they don't want for anything they do well at school and nursery and are loved so so much I can't sleep I can't eat I just cry and hug them all the time now while waiting 😭

They won't take your children. But your partner will need to move out and have supervised contact while they assess the risk.

They will just want to make sure that your children haven’t been touched.

I’m sorry to hear this but you must het rid of your husband, these allegations are rarely untrue I’m afraid.

He's been accused, you don't say the circumstances but I'm sure it is possible to touch someone 'inappropriately' by accident, for example if they slipped and you tried to save them, or knocked into them. I'm not making excuses for him but things do happen.

Have you discussed this with your husband and if so, what does he say?

So sorry you are going through this, op.

If you believe him over a child who has made a disclosure then you won’t be seen as a protective factor.

You could possibly lose your dcs over this if you do t do exactly what social work advise.

Most child sexual abuse cases don’t result in a conviction, that doesn’t mean the accused is innocent. Unless there’s a witness or physical/dna evidence they can’t convict. It doesn’t mean it didn’t happen.

Whatever you do don’t leave your dcs alone with this man ever again.

You need to show that your protecting your children above him while this is ongoing. This means asking him to leave. It will go against you if you do otherwise.

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Thank you all so much I have said I will get rid of him forever if I need to my kids are more important and I'm an open book and going to do everything they say xx

You won’t go wrong if you do what you’ve said above. Good luck OP xx

Most child sexual abuse cases don’t result in a conviction, that doesn’t mean the accused is innocent. Unless there’s a witness or physical/dna evidence they can’t convict. It doesn’t mean it didn’t happen.

So sadly true. I read a report about a year ago, apparently conviction rate for under 12s is 20%, 12-16 is 25%. There's lots of child abusers walking our streets.