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dh has lost his wedding ring

17 replies

franke · 20/06/2007 20:46

sigh

I wasn't really that bothered about getting married, but I feel rather sad about this. And it was a nice ring too.

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tearinghairout · 21/06/2007 12:55

How? Does he know where? I would feel sad too. What did he say? If it as me I'd drag you into town to choose a new one right away - but men are a bit unthinking sometimes, non?

noonar · 21/06/2007 12:57

ah, franke. i do sympathise. my dh lost his. then he lost his replacement, too! he has no ring, atm.

wishingfourgotone · 21/06/2007 12:57

What! my dp and i got engaged and at the last last job he had he never used to wear his ring on his ring finger then he has at this new job have you checked pockets car etc etc

beansprout · 21/06/2007 12:59

My dh did this too - within weeks of us getting married. It's horrible.

Issy · 21/06/2007 13:09

I lost mine several years ago. I bought a replacement (it was a happy moment strolling into a jewellers asking for the cheapest wedding ring they had!) and then bizarrely found the original ring a year or more later, whilst tidying out the bathroom cabinets, at the bottom of a packet of tubes of time-expired indigestion tablets. I was within seconds of throwing the packet into the bin.

TBH its loss really didn't bother me. The marriage is hugely important, but I don't think I'd invested much emotion in the ring itself.

PURPLEKAT · 21/06/2007 13:21

My husband lost his on our honeymoon! We were on a day trip to a gorgeous island in the Dominican Republic and he lost it in the sea shortly after we got there - he blamed the suncream! He spent the rest of the day looking for it under the water - a lost cause I think! He ordered a new one when we got home and has managed to keep that one for nearly 10 years now!
BTW we used holiday insurance to buy a new one - I think sometimes house insurance policies cover things like rings too? Might be worth investigating?

RnBee · 21/06/2007 13:34

I lost mine a few days after my dad died. Was awful. DH found it on in the folds of plastic of a nappy packet!

CaptainUnderpants · 21/06/2007 13:48

My Dh has lost his twice and found it on both ocassions.

first time at Centre Parks swimming pool, reported it to them and when they cleared the filters they found it. Second time at a local childrens farm again contacted them and withinh a couple of days it had been handed in.

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franke · 21/06/2007 14:07

Thanks for the replies.

I got him to remove all the car seats from his car this morning. On the bright side we found a piece of Supermag that went missing a while back. Our house is clutter-laden (I've just realised) - where do we start? I find the searching really depressing because deep down I believe it's a lost cause. I guess if it wants to be found it will be one day... Also trying to get inside the head of 3yo ds - what would he have done with it if he came across it? Unfortunately my best guess is "Put it in the bin". Arrrgh.

Of course Issy, you're right, the marriage is more important, but our wedding was extremely low-key, so the choosing rings thing beforehand was quite a big part of it, which is why I'm more bothered than I should be.

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Issy · 21/06/2007 19:02

I understand Franke. I was hugely hugely upset when I lost my grandmother's diamond watch. It was the only thing belonging to her that I had. Fortunately I found that again too (I'd just put it in a too-safe safe place and it was again over a year before I accidentally relocated it).

I'm beginning to see a pattern here!

CaptainUnderpants · 21/06/2007 19:20

A marriage may be more important , but the wedding ring was a symbol of your marriage and love that you gave to each other on your wedding day. I felt quite upset when DH lost his ring .

bea · 22/06/2007 14:53

sorry to hear this franke... i know what you mean... it's not sooo important but it is in a funny way... if it's any comfort... i have lost my wedding ring 3 times... after each dc was born as i lose weight quite quickly after birth! (shame i put it on sooo fast!)...

dd1 lost and found in the washing maching... between the door and the actual drum - the rubbery seal bit... (slipped of during putting laundry in....)

ds1 - lost and found in the ironed pile of clothes... must have slipped whilst folding....

dd2 - lost and found in the car seat... again slipped off whilst fastening ds1 in car seat...

good luck it may turn up... say a little prayer to st anthony (i think patron saint of lost things! - my catholic friend swears by it!)

mrsmalumbas · 22/06/2007 14:57

I lost my engagement ring once - my now DH did not notice! A week later I found it in my intray at work. I had been putting on handcream and had put it in the intray to keep it "safe" and then put papers down on top of it. Doh.

I have since heard that hypnosis can be quite useful for retrieving lost things - about 60-80% success rate. So if you really want that particular ring back again that might be worth considering if DH would agree to it!

ProfYaffle · 22/06/2007 15:00

I lost dh's ring for him felt sooooo bad. He forgot to put it on one morning, dd1 was playing with it so I put it in my jeans pocket so she didn't lose it (oh the irony).

Forgot all about it, was queueing up at the cash machine and heard a 'ting', the woman infront of me was rummaging in her bag so I thought something had fallen out of her bag, saw the ring on the floor, picked it up and gave it to her. She said 'thanks' and put it in her bag. Came to get dh's ring out of my pocket later on when I remembered it and it wasn't there, obviously I gave it to the woman by mistake. I don't know how it happened, I didn't move, didn't put my hand in my pocket, the ring just pinged out which is why it didn't occur to me that it was mine!

We haven't replaced it, it's not hugely important to us, it's the marriage that counts not the jewellery. I still feel dreadful and really about it though.

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franke · 22/06/2007 18:22

Funny you should mention St Anthony Bea, a friend also told me about him just this afternoon (along with "ooh well your dh can just pretend he's not married now" - she does an air of readers' wives about her ) and dh suggested hypnotism too Mrs M. We may give it a try, but a part of me does hope it'll show up in his in-tray or a pile of ironing (although there aren't many of those in our house).

ProfYaffle - I'd be so mortified but lol at handing over your dh's ring to a complete stranger. She must have thought you were bonkers.

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FluffyMummy123 · 22/06/2007 18:23

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licketysplit · 22/06/2007 18:34

Yes. St. Anthony's your man! Say a prayer to help you find it.

Many years ago my Granny lost her beautiful solitaire diamond engagement ring on a beach as they played with the children one afternoon. She only missed it after they'd left the beach and the tide had come in.

In true Catholic tradition they all said a prayer to St. Anthony.

The next morning they returned to what they thought was roughly the right area of the beach. Legend has it that Granny bent down, ruffled the sand a little and uncovered her ring!

I hope it turns up.x

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