Am I being Unreasonable.

[charlize]

Is anyone there to give me a bit of advice?
As some of you know I've been feeling very depressed and lonely lately. On my own most of the week with the kids and stuck in an unhappy relationship.
The one thing that has kept me going is my holiday to center parcs next week. I look forward to it all yr as for once Iam surrounded by my family, mum dad and sis all come with me and kids and I don't feel lonely at all.
I especially love spending this time with my sister as we have a lot of long chats and go to spa together etc and I don't think I would go if it was with just my mum and dad older generation and all that.
However my sis has just met a new boyfriend and Iam delighted for her she has been without one for yrs now and has been spending a lot of time with him this last couple of weeks.
Iam really happy for her and even suggested to her that she invite him over as a day guest to CP.
She has just rang me and after some chat told me that her BF would be coming over to CP one day and they would both be going out for the day in the lake district and then they woyld be spending the night in a hotel!!
Iam gutted bt this after all we are only there for $ nights and I feel v hurt that they are doing this. It has set me off again and I've been in tears since I got off the phone.
Am I a being silly ?

I don't know Charlize - I'm not a regular poster and it's not clear from your post whether your sister is fully aware of your situation. All I wanted to say really, is that you obviously think a lot of your sister and value her company, so it doesn't seem worth falling out over...it's just one night and maybe her BF needs some time from her....? It doesn't sound unreasonable (sorry if I sound unsympathetic, don't mean to be)

I know (from experience) that when you are depressed, things like this can be extremely hurtful but can get a little out of proportion, as it can be tempting to focus on one event or person as the thing that will lift you up. When you're feeling fine, a thing like this might make you a bit miffed, but when you're depressed it can feel like you are being rejected at a time in your life when you need the most support. I hope I don't sound like I'm telling you what to do, but have you talked to your sister about your depression? She and her friend may be able to arrange to go on a girly weekend some other time if she knows how much you need this time with her. I would imagine you would do the same for her. Also - have you seen the GP for antidepressants? You could ask for something mild, and they can make such a difference. Good luck.

Hi Charlize, I have posted something on the relatinships thread for you. In answer to this question, and in light of everything, no, you're not being silly. If everything were normal for you then I'd answer differently. What are the chances of calling your sister and arranging an extra bit of time together to compensate? Doesn't your dh work away - could she come and stay at your house for a night? That could give you something else to look forward to after the holiday.

Thanks so much everyone for your advice.
It really helps to have you all to talk to and I can see i might be blowing this all up now.
Hatter, Yes I have asked my sis to come and stay but She is usually too busy with friends etc or too tired after work to come and stay the night.
I know though that perhaps I expect too much from my family, Iam nearly 30 and should have cut the apron strings long ago and I know if I had a loving partner I would not be so needy.
I did text sis and apologise if I was offhand so everything is now fine.
Thanks again.

Hi Charlize,

you seem chirpier today. good to see that stuff about the course you're doing too. keep your head high and keep posting