God, why are some mums so bloody dull??

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Just need to rant..all the playground/toddler grp conversations seem to revolve around:

• washing,washing machines breaking etc
• does my daughter love ballet, or would she rather do modern? or tap? Oh its so hard to decide, i dont know what to choose,hmm, oh its such a rush after school getting to all these places, blardy blah..
• are you preparing recipes for the school cook book? (er, no)
• OOh are you going to the PTA meeting after school, theyre talking about the new fences that are being put up (yeah like i care!) -my husband thinks our new 4X4 isnt big enough for the kids, we only have one child but oh we really do need more space..so we have to buy the hugest fukking land rover we can find in london -we tried to get ds to sleep at 7.15 last night but he was cranky and didnt drop off til 7.30 so i didnt have time to get all my ironing done..blardy blaardy bores...

Does my head in!! dont they have any interests? any ideas of what is happening in the rest of the world? no jobs to go to, or issues to focus on????

...while ogling the well-formed gardener through the French windows...

(and no, I'm not. I don't do these newfangled Quinny things.)

Are you sure none if the interesting mums want to talk to you?

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and the even more louche pool boy

how old are you AGBU?

i get along great with older mums. my cousin and her friend are 35 and i got on brilliant at the last mn meet up with everyone no matter what age. but i think that's because with them i feel like i can be myself as they already know me.

older mum's i don't really know seem to try and avoid me probably cos they don't think we would get along.

it is my worst nightmare when ds goes to school and me being an outcast cos i will only be 22.

ACTUALLY at my M&T group I do tend to talk about babies as I am in posession of one!!

However, I really really really have to stop myself telling them all to get on Mumsnet or referring to it. Which is incredibly sad, at least it is to someone whom I do not know that well.

Maybe I will try the kippers this week

SOME of them ARE lovely, and funny and interesting, etc! but these mums all work quite a lot so dont see them much, although do go out for drinks sometimes..

Thankfully i work part time so not stuck in playground every day!!!!!

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the thing is allgone, the school gate is really just a place where mums and/or dads drop off and pick up their schoolchildren, its not a dating agency or a place to have fun particularly

Never thought of school yard mums as a way to a deep and meaningful - its just the nature of the beast, surely.

And aherm, I'm 39 and went to Glasto last time, have been to see Arcade Fire, am off to see Sheffields finest, the Arctic Monkeys blah blah yaddah yaddah. Don't think I'd bore the bore old mums with my tales of indiedom at the school gates etc. If you find someone you do connect with, maybe then you can move on to more 'interesting' things. I wouldn't be searching for a soulmate and slamming them when I didn't find it thou.

nappyaddict, have you communicated with my ancient 22-yr-old daughter about Social Work yet? She said she'd sent you an email...

UCM - I know that one of the mums at tots MNs, and we even discuss MN stuff, though I don't know who she is on here (she has probably spotted me). When I was off for a couple of weeks she even told me that one of my MN pals was having a hard time (which dragged my sorry ass back on here and ruined the progress I had made with my house!)

Like as if us 50 something mothers never went to pop festivals

WW does her name begin with F? if so yes.

AGBU
so, just to recap, the the few ones who are lovely and funny and interesting are the ones who work.......ALL the others are the washing dullards. Is that it ?

I am rubbish at small talk sometimes.

Other Mother: 'Wonder if it will ever stop raining'
Brain-disengaged me: 'Wish it would then I could stop humming Wet Wet Wet tunes in my head'

End of convo.

Two weeks after that I actually saw her swerve to avoid me.

Dont you have friends to discuss your interests with?
I would imagine thats what these mums do and they keep the small talk for people that they dont really know, ie at the school gates.
Btw, you're 28 right? So am I and I cant relate to what you're saying at all.

Yes i do have many friends but most of them dont have children, so i see them evenings and weekends. i was the first one to have kids and they all think im a bit housewifely!! which i am totally not!

All my friends with children work part time so dont see them all that much, but when i do we have lots in common.

JeremyVile , how can you not relate to me?

so, let me get this right, you think all the mums you know are a bit housewifely, and your mates without kids think you're a bit housewifely?

I'm sensing a pattern here, maybe you've got more in common with the other mums than you realise

I'm 30, so I'm a bit past it, really. It's all about time and place when it comes to small talk, surely?

i think poepel stick to safe subjetcs wiht folkt hey dont knwo
t hen when they rae alone wiht their best mate theytalk kippers

yes i dont know where i fit in!!!