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Abortion 18 months ago

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jadedgranger · 23/09/2018 15:35

Hi, I'm sorry if this is on the wrong thread, I can't seem to find the right place for a discussion on this topic, and sorry to anyone who might find this a sensitive subject (please leave if so).

I had an abortion about 18 months ago. I had been with my boyfriend about 6 months, just graduated university and started a job which was making me depressed and miserable with 60+ hour work week so had plans to leave and travel the world.

We talked about it a lot, came very close to each other throughout, and decided to have an abortion. At the time I still didn't feel sure, but I don't think I ever would have been sure as I still don't know what the right thing would be. I cried in the waiting room and right after taking the tablets.

Now it's 18 months later I am still feeling sad about it, however I am also unbelievably broody. I write down baby names, always want to visit and see babies and children and dream of when I can have one myself. I feel deep down that having a baby might ease the pain of the abortion.

Does anyone have any advice? Me and my boyfriend leave for our travel year next week, the one we've planned since we met, so I keep thinking I could have a baby when we get back. I'm still 25 and my BF still thinks it's a bit early. I don't know how to feel better.

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Cookingcrumble · 24/10/2018 22:39

Abortions affect people in different ways, however having baby out to ease your guilt isn't the right thing . Maybe speak to a counselor ? .

Travel the world , buy a house and enjoy being 25 .
I had an abortion at 15 and 18 and the one at 18 hit me really hard as I didn't know I was pregnant and I was still living at home , I desperately wanted another and as he already had a toddler at the time it made me incredibly depressed and caused strain on our relationship , I should have gotten a good job and travelled the world.
You will eventually have a baby and trust me the pain does eventually go , can't say the broodiness will , I think it's just a natural thing women have .

( I have 2 kids with him now )

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