how do I get a life?!

[littleweed]

I'm beginning to realise the truth of when my mum used to say 'only boring people get bored....'. I love my DS to bits and it was my choice to be a SAHM but am finding after a year thats its very boring. we make an effort to go out every morning and do stuff but i find the rest of the time boring. My friends all seem really busy doing stuff at home and I can't work out why they are so busy and I'm not - but to be honest I don't seem to have anyhthing to do in the house. teh housework/ironing/cooking doesn't take that long. When DS is asleep I usually read as thtas what I enjoy doing but I feel I'm just somehow missing the point. How do I develop a passion? nothing really seems to interest/motivate me? Does any of this make sense of does it sound like teh ramblings of a mad sad woman?

littleweed, I know exactly how you're feeling. Sorry no tips here but will watch with interest. I meant to be goal setting but can't find the motivation.

There's nothing wrong with reading if that is what you enjoy doing. It sounds to me like you've fallen into that trap that I do regularly of believing that everyone else is having much more fum than you are!! You could try out a night class maybe though?

OK you two - I'll help cheer you up and motivate you!!! Felling fairly upbeat today.

I'm at work so not sure what clubs etc are out there but couldn't you do any of the following:-

Go to the park and start talking to any mums around
Sign yourself up for an evening class
join a gym
go to a ball play place and make a new friend
call some friends and have a good old gossip
arrange a night out for you and your friends
make your dh/partners a special meal (for no special reason)
sort out the kitchen cupboards
go for a bike ride
take your kids to the nearset pets at home / garden center to see the bunny rabbits/fish etc
go up town, get some craft stuff and make cards, cakes, pictures with your kids

ANY of these help?????

Go forth and conquer ladies

Have more children .

Seriously, I do know what you mean, although I have three kids and NEVER get everything finished. My youngest is 17 months and I'm not having any more, so I'm going to try and use any free time before she's at full time school to plan and maybe study for what I want to do in the future. Could you study something through the OU or a professional organisation? You sound very organised and motivated so it could work very well for you.

Also, your ds is still little and the interaction with him will get more rewarding as he can start to do more things e.g. painting, puzzles, riding a trike etc.

Bless you sweetheart, I have signed myself up a cookery course which starts in October but thats about it.

Littleweed, I'm jealous. How comes your housework doesn't take hours? You must be one of those marvellously competent, organised women I aspire to be. Enjoy it!
If you're really bored, you could try an adult education course... they're all about to start in a couple of weeks, so now would be the ideal time to sign up.

I sympathise littleweed, there are times when I really feel 'is that it' about being an SAHM.

I love my book group - is there one locally, or could you start one? If you like reading then I find it really adds to my enjoyment, and makes me read things I never would have done, but which have extended my horizons.

Maybe a bit of voluntary work? A bit tricky with a small one - could you become a Homestart volunteer, or Volunteer Reading Help, or something completely unconnected with children? Could try looking at TimeBank website.

finding a passion - thinking laterally, how about the thing you hate most, or never thought you would do? - at least you feel something about it! I started running in April - I am 3.5 stone overweight and have always loathed running, but found a different approach via a book/support of dh and now really enjoy it. i still run/walk rather than run, but who cares? I must say i haven't been for a couple of weeks tho. easy to say ' be passionate' to someone else...

thanks guys for finding the time to reply. Youre' right I'm horribly organised which is probably part of the problem. I was planning to go back to work 1 day a week come September but no one wants a supply teacher who will only do 1 day. Hopefully once DS goes into nursery for that one day things will get easier. In the meantime at least I have mumsnet to keep me going.
have a good day all LW

Have you thought of volunteering to help your local NCT branch? I help produce the newsletter for mine and have also produced their publicity material and helped organise a Pregnancy Fair.

Hi - How about doing a course in something?

This is beneficial because 1. it keeps your mind stimulated. 2. stops boredom .3.gives you another string to your bow.

If you do something like the open university you can spread the fees over a year and the work fits around your life. Also there is such a wide range of courses that there must be something you will enjoy. Once you start something like this - although a bit nervewrecking at first - it can really give you another focus.