I just want a break :(

[changinname]

I know I'm being completely unreasonable so I'm not even going there...

When we had just DD, mum would take her overnight, some of the day before/day after etc so we could have a break.

Since we've has DS she has taken DD occasionally, but first she said she couldn't have DS because of the breastfeeding, then because he wasn't sleeping through... he now isn't breastfeeding, is sleeping through, and still she is only taking DD.

As much as I know DD loves going, it just doesn't give the "break" that mum says she is doing it for.

I'm tired. He doesn't stop pulling things over or climbing or just being him.

I know that's why she doesn't want to take him Its the way I have always been given this guilt trip thing of how she doesn't think she would be able to have the children if I were to have 3 because she wouldn't be able to handle 3, but that 2 would be ok... and now the 2 is here its not.

Name changing for protecting her sake if by some mad chance she were to look. Most of you probably know who I am but don't say please.

So anyway, just tired, tearful, hormonal and fed up.

I want to curl up with a book in a silent house. Make dinner for just me and DH, and wake up in the morning without a child yelling.

I know they are my children and any help is a bonus, but right now I'm not enjoying mummyhood much.

God we all want tat and never get it
How often does she take dd?

sorry that

I know exactly how you feel. It's tough. No advice, sorry, but I do know how it is!

Maybe once since Christmas

having her tonight

are you going to do anyhting special?
Would you rather she babysat for both of them tonight so you could go out? She could babysit in your house so she wouldn't have to get up with ds tomorrow morning?

We haven't got any money, so can't go out anywhere. I just want some quiet time in my own home.

DH never takes them out anywhere either, so I am never home alone.

I'm sorry - I don't know why I'm so upset about all this today.

Think its seeing my stepmum having her grandchildren most weekends and envying them.

I have had exactually the same with my mum only taking my eldest overnight.
DS2 is now 4 years old, but he requires more looking after than his 7 year old brother, so mum still won't take him overnight!
Like you say, taking just the elder child doesn't give you much of a break, and I found it harder work because DS2 would be very demanding because he was bored & he would be constantly asking for his brother.

I recently had to put a stop to DS1 staying overnight without DS2 because I didn't feel it was fair on DS2. I do feel bad for DS1 though because he loves staying at his nanny's house.

We all feel in need of a bit of a break sometimes. Motherhood is just the toughest job, I have been feeling very overwhelmed with it all myself recently, so very much sympathise with how you're feeling!

I know how you are feeling...I'm not enjoying being a mummy at the moment either
My parents live over 300 miles away (and my PIL's) My kids never leave my side...ever...DH is Self Employed and never has them for more than an hour or so. For the last 2 weeks he has worked late...I have had all 3 of them from the minute they wake up till the minute they go to sleep....which at the moment has been a nightmare in itself....10.15 pm I finally came downstairs the other night

No advice as I'm in the same boat...but I FEEL YOUR PAIN!!!!

Get your DH to take the children out to the park.
It doesn't cost anything, and all children, especially little boys, are always better for running off some energy.
I think you need to look at your partner for more support rather than begrudging the support your mother does give you.
Being tired and not having a break is tough, and it grinds you down.
Explain to your DH how you are feeling, and ask him to be a bit more 'hands on' with childcare where possible.