first birthday blues

[alexsmum]

My ds will be one this week! And I am so sad!
I have also finished breastfeeding this week and I just feel like he isn't my baby anymore, and I'm all weepy.Friend says its my hormones because of the b/fing coming to an end but i'm not so sure.I can't believe how quickly the past 12 months have gone.He is an absolute delight, he really is and he's growing up so fast it's scary.The past 12 months have been quite hard what with one thing and another but it's like that has faded into insignificance, and now I want him to stay my baby forever!!
has anyone else felt like this or am I a norman batesesque psycho mother???

i feel the same. My DS is still bf though.
I looked at him today when with a couple of friends and their babies.
My DS and my friend's DS are now little boys. They both have long legs and somehow their faces look more grown up. It is so sad....
But think of all the things you will be doing soon, walks and slides and proper chats. Painting, running, playing ball, all sorts of exciting things. He'll go to the films with you, to the zoo, he'll be a ble to read you book and tell you jokes.
It's not all sad, and i suspect he will be your baby forever. My mum still calls me her baby sometimes, and I'm nearly 40!
have a lovely first birthday party and congratulate yourself on keeping him safe this far.

I have felt very sad as each phase passed, but the sdness has never lasted because the next thing is so fantastic! He will still be your baby - honest!

I have a 4 year old as well and he's starting school in september.Sob!!!
I think it's worse because we have decided that we're not going to have anymore.

Oh, but he will always be your baby! My ds is nearly three and my baby. Plus I think it just gets better and better. My dh drove ds off to his grandma's this morning and he (my ds!) sat in the car blowing kisses to me and 'catching' the ones I blew back. He 'reads' to me, and says 'I'm looking after you, mummy' for no particular reason. I get HUGE cuddles and he's learning so much, which I find fascinating. The time does go quickly and that is sad (I remember feeling tearful when I though my ds wasn't a 'newborn' any more ) but there are so many treats to come.

I know exactly what you mean. We had DS's birthday party yesterday (b-day not till Wed.)and had a lovely time, but am really depressed today, because my baby isn't a baby anymore. It is great that he is getting more mobile, and relying less on me, but I miss the baby part, and only seem to remember the good.

This really strikes a chord for me. DS1 is 4, starts school in sept, and DS2 was 1 in july. Since his 1st birthday I've been in tears all the time as he's not my baby any more. Am still bf and very reluctant to give up as feels like last little bit of his babyhood will be over if I do. I think I feel like this as DH is adamant he wants to stop at 2 but I am desperate for a 3rd , but that's a whole other thread.
So, no Alexsmum you are not a psycho mother (or if you are, I am too!)

One year olds are so fabby. All gurgly and chuckly and smiley. Well, mine is anyway