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I ran over a fox last night and I can't stop feeling so sad.....

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Lizzer · 28/05/2007 13:24

...I was taking my friend home to her house in the middle of countryside at 1am. It ran out and under the back tyre, there was an almightly thud. I burst into tears and was shaking so much by the time I got home. Dp and his friend were lovely about it and didn't joke (as men tend to do about things like that) but I just can't get it out of my head....

It was a beautiful creature and I killed it, what if it was a mum trying to get back to her brood?

I can't go on that road for another few days in case the body is there.. I would feel sick

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RuthChan · 28/05/2007 13:32

Hi Lizzer
I couldn't read this and not post.
It's a real shame about what happened, but it's a bigger shame that you're cutting yourself up about it so much.
As you said yourself, the fox ran out into the path of your car. It's not as though you could have avoided it.
These things are really sad, but they can't be helped. It really wasn't your fault.
I'm glad to hear that your DP and his friend didn't make a joke about it. I'm equally sure that they didn't blame you either.
A couple of years ago I saw a dog being killed by a train. I was in no way directly involved in the incident, but it still really shocked me and stayed fresh in my mind for a long time.
I hope you feel better about it soon.

Twinklemegan · 28/05/2007 13:44

Oh God you poor thing. You didn't kill it though hun, it was just an accident. It happened to my DH once on the motorway and he was really shaken up as well.

Nbg · 28/05/2007 13:48

Awwwww Lizzer

Try and think another way.
What would have happened if you swerved? You could have easily gone into another car, wall, hedge and had a serious crash.

We live right on the edge of the countryside and have to drive through it to get anywhere. We have often run things over since moving here but I am begining to see dh's way of thinking.

As sad as it is and as much as I dont want to, i would much rather have to run over a fox, bird etc and save my family.

Furrymummy · 28/05/2007 13:55

Aww poor you - know how you feel - DH ran over mummy duck and ducklings who were crossing the A1 when we were on our way to Scotland No chance to avoid them, as there was a steep bank on our left, an oncoming car on our right, and someone pretty close behind us. We felt soooo guilty!

kittylette · 28/05/2007 13:57

My Dad used to do long distance driving and this one stretch of the motorway somewhere was always crawling with rabbits around dawn, and he had to just go straight through as it was too dangerous to stop/swere on that stretch of the motorway

Theres nothing you could've done!

((((()))))

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Lizzer · 28/05/2007 14:01

Thanks for your kind msgs. I know its a miracle I haven't ever killed anything before being in the Lakes, and even on the way to my friend's house I went over a hedgehog's head but didn't hit it. Then last week when dd was in car I swerved for a rabbit and it was ok too.

But I do know what you mean Nbg, dp is ALWAYS saying to me you don't swerve for animals, but I really didn't think I would be so shook up, I'm not vegetarian but being pg doesn't help with the emotions either...

Ruthchan, that must have been awful to watch too

I just needed to get it out and I feel better for writing it down.When I think of the more important threads such as custy's mum dying, it seems very unimportant but thanks for 'listening' guys

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suzywong · 28/05/2007 14:02

natural selection, not such a wily fox afterall, do not worry about it any longer

Nbg · 28/05/2007 14:02

I remember a couple of years ago, driving back from London late one night.

We did a detour on a country lane to avoid a standing queue on the motorway.
As we went down we saw these huge head lights but they seemed to be stood.
As we got nearere we stopped and there was a huge lorry and in front was the driver holding a the biggest deer I have ever seen in my life in his arms. The poor animals head on his knee
It was alive but badly injured. The driver had called a local vet to come out and help.

I still think about it now.
Its so sad.

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Lizzer · 28/05/2007 14:04

Oh furrymummy and kittylette, that's so sad but unavoidable too.....
thanks for posting makes me feel less like 'thebiggestevilcowontheplanet' now...

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Lizzer · 28/05/2007 14:07

Suzy, that's what dp said (after I stopped crying)!
I've seen a deer hit too Nbg, it's horrible isn't it. The worst thing would be hitting and not killing the creature. I did think about that afterwards and didn't even now whether to call the police (?!) Just to remove the body really in case it caused an accident. Would you have done that? I wonder now whether I should've...

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suzywong · 28/05/2007 14:10

don't worry about removing the body, the carrion birds with have dealt with it by now, nature is nothing if not efficient

I do understand a little of how you feel, was in a car that ran over a badger years ago.

DimpledThighs · 28/05/2007 14:16

very sad - if it was me I would be upset too - but it was bad luck for you and the fox - it is not like you went out to kill a fox.

Forgive yourself.

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