Friend taking her DS overseas for 6 months, should I advice her not to?

[peggy0062]

A friend is taking her DS overseas for 6 months without her partner. She is going away to stay with family overseas and will leave her DH to work in UK. Her family lives more than 10 hours flight away and it's impossible for her DH to visit during that time. She has already stayed over there with her family for 3 months earlier this year. DS is one and a half, just at the age when he needs his dad and I feel it's very unfair to her DS and rather selfish of her. Not to mention what it would do to her marriage. Should I talk to her or stay out of it?

To be honest, it really isn't any of your business, unless she asks for your opinion.

I don't think you could really say much to help in this situation. Presumably she herself and her husband have already thought about and discussed this issues. I think you would risk being seen as interfering in something that is, on the face of it, none of your business. Why do you feel that your intervention might be helpful?

up to them

And it is your business why ??????/

Its up to her at the end of the day, not really any of your business tbh.

am loving the varying degrees of politeness in responses all essentially saying the same thing!

NO

stay out of it

although 6 months is a long time to be away from a partner, your friend will have her own reasons for wanting to go, in a few years time when her child is in school she wont be able to take off for months at a time so she might be making the most of it now.

Never, ever, give anyone any advice any time about how to live their life everever.

If she asks, give her you opinion using the words, "If it were me..."

i wouldn't offer any advice unless she asks. its a touchy subject. and you may have to wonder why she is willing to go away for SO long with her son. ... just be there if she asks really.

Not your place to express an opinion unless asked. She will find it harder to do once he is at school so why not now ?

Thanks. Probably best to stay out of it then. She is young and doesn't always think things through. Her hubby seems a supportive and hands on dad. Let's hope everything goes well for them.