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Passed driving test on 7th attempt by highly reluctant examiner

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Pachamama2017 · 02/06/2018 15:20

Well, I finally passed my driving test yesterday after 7 attempts! I should be over the moon. However, the examiner, who I'd never had before, was highly critical and was very much insinuating that I didn't belong on the road but that he had to pass me as I didn't commit any majors. He gave me 10 minors, which is much more than previous tests, which had between 4-8 minors.
Anyway, he was relentless. He said he knew I'd taken a number of tests and that people shouldn't do tests unless they are capable of passing. I explained I suffered with nerves during tests and definitely drove better when not but he just kept saying he didn't buy that, and angrily repeating 'if you can't do it, you can't do it'. I asked him what I had done that he thought was bad and he gave two examples of me going into the right lane off an island when he told me I'd have to turn left saying 'how much info does one person need' and that I'd stayed in 3rd while doing 50-60 on a highway. Not great, I know but he made no allowances for nerves. To top it off, as he handed me the form to sign, he very coldly said, 'go on then, sign your life away'.
The whole experience, but especially this last comment, really got to me. I have 2 young children and I thought of them when he said that. And it just fed into insecurities I already had about taking so many tries. I have recently felt positive and confident about driving but although I've passed feel like I've taken a backwards step. My partner, who drives for a living, disagrees and thinks he formed a negative opinion based on my number of tests.
Anybody else had a similarly horrific experience?

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comeagainforbigfudge · 02/06/2018 15:26

What an arse. Ignore him

You passed! Woo hoo! Congrats Flowers

MrsPresley · 02/06/2018 15:27

I passed on the 6th attempt! But the examiner certainly didn't make me feel bad, that's not good!

I just couldn't get the hang of reversing around a corner, so failed on that 4 times and the 1st I failed because I pulled in front of another car (I fully accept that I deserved to fail that one!)

I've driving almost 25 years now, and to be honest, it wasn't till I passed that I actually felt confident.

Don't worry, you'll get better and more confident as time goes on and if you were that bad then he should have failed you!

MrsPresley · 02/06/2018 15:28

Sorry forgot to say CONGRATULATIONS!

CookPassBabtridge · 02/06/2018 15:29

That is terrible OP. Minors are things that you'll improve on with practise. He sounds like a perfectionist who makes no allowances for nerves. Well bloody done on passing! Wine

comeagainforbigfudge · 02/06/2018 15:30

Ps i took 3 attempts and the very 1st time my examiner was being examined himself. Twas awful! Then the rain was LASHING down on next one. Finally passed by some miracle fluke and occasionally find i forget to put my car up into 5th gear on motorway. Just occasionally mind Wink

Hyppolyta · 02/06/2018 15:31

I passed on my 6th attempt.

Im a brilliant driver, but the nerves when I had to do my test meant I barely remembered where to put the keys.

Ignore the examiner, if possible Id suggest you have a few trips out by yourself just to build confidence before u take the kids out, but Congrantulations on passing! Wine

StrangeOddment · 02/06/2018 15:31

They do it on purpose OP (well, a few of them) so you don’t go out cocky and thinking you’re amazing.

Not exactly helpful for an already nervous driver though, I think it’s stupid.

The important thing is YOU PASSED, YOU DID IT, HOORAY! Celebrate! Go out on your first solo drive!

(And once all your paperwork is sorted, make a complaint about him if you like. Because REALLY.)

DustOffYourHighestHopes · 02/06/2018 15:32

He’s an examiner. He’s angry because technically you passed but he thinks you’re dangerous on the road.

He could have said it in a nicer way: “you have passed but you need to practice more and have more lessons”.

Silver lining: if it makes you more aware of your rubbish driving (if indeed it is rubbish) and inspires you to improve, then he could have saved your life or someone else’s.

lulu12345 · 02/06/2018 15:34

What an arse! Congratulations!! Get out there and practice and overcome the nerves.

neurotransmittens · 02/06/2018 15:35

Congratulations! a pass is a pass Flowers
He shouldn’t have given you the pass if he thought you were a danger on the road.

Is there a way you can give feedback on test instructors?

themagicamulet · 02/06/2018 15:37

Congrats on your pass OP - it's a great achievement! Take no notice of him. Obviously had a personality bypass.

FirstOfMyName · 02/06/2018 15:38

A friend passed 5th time. She is an excellent driver & it was only nerves that made it worse. She went out in her own car with an examiner & then did the advance driving course which really helped her confidence.

SealSong · 02/06/2018 15:39

Wow he was incredibly rude, and very unprofessional. I would be seriously inclined to complain if I were you. What an arse he was.
Don't let him put you off. You passed your test (well done!) and have every right to be driving now, just like any other driver. Get out there and keep driving!

FirstOfMyName · 02/06/2018 15:39

Sorry forgot to say congratulations!

Littleredboat · 02/06/2018 15:42

I dunno tbh. If you got ten minors I don’t think you should pass.

Maybe spend a few sessions driving around roads you know at quieter periods before you go completely out and about. Or have a few more lessons, to build your confidence?

nicslackey · 02/06/2018 15:49

I like the fact that in Northern Ireland, drivers have to display R plates for a year after passing their test. Everyone is aware that they are inexperienced and they can't exceed 45mph.

Saz1995 · 02/06/2018 15:55

Well done on passing! Practice practice practice will build your confidence up. Don’t let some cocky prat lower your confidence x

BrownTurkey · 02/06/2018 16:02

Sign your life away does sound bad in this context but might just be part of his usual patter. Anyway, congrats, and once you have a few drives under your belt ask a couple of people for their honest assessment.

kissthealderman · 02/06/2018 16:05

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Pinktails · 02/06/2018 16:21

Alas you find nasty bastards in all professions op.
You passed!! Congratulations, well done! Flowers
Fuck him.

dementedpixie · 02/06/2018 16:26

You are allowed up to 15 minors I think and then you fail even if you have no majors. I had 14 so just passed by the skin of my teeth! Have been driving for 17 years or so now

Pachamama2017 · 02/06/2018 18:08

I am glad I posted here, so many positive comments has not only encouraged me to forge ahead and not let the experience destroy the confidence I've worked so hard to build but has also helped me to feel a sense of achievement over passing; something I'd felt had been taken from me until now. THANK YOU!! It has also been reassuring to hear from other drivers who took a number of attempts to pass and/or had many minors but have been driving confidently and competently for many years. Tomorrow I'm going to take a little drive on my own and start getting in some practice. Thanks again 😃

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bastardkitty · 02/06/2018 18:12

Congratulations on passing. Complain about him being rude and sarcastic. Ask if he is like this with all candidates or if he has particular issues with women drivers. Happy motoring!

SinceWhenDid · 02/06/2018 18:18

Congratulations!

Similarly my dd is brilliant on the violin and practises loads but barely scrapes through gradings and has had examiners ask her if she ever practices! Some people just don't cope well with pressure!

SuzanneV · 02/06/2018 18:30

I took even more attempts to pass and when I finally passed I almost argued with the examiner but he said a pass is a pass. I have now been driving happily for 25 years, so just ignore him and enjoy your freedom!