Would it be horrible of me...

[emkana]

...to ignore dd2's first birthday? It's her birthday on Friday - dh will be at work, I got a doctor's appointment, dd2 normally goes to her nan's on that day (and dd1 recently too) - but we've invited friends for a BBQ on Sunday. So I've been thinking - do you think it's okay if I just carry on as normal on Friday and "pretend" her birthday is on Sunday? I know that she doesn't know any better anyway, but still I feel slightly guilty... any reason to, do you think?

I mean dd1 goes to nan, dd2 recently too

No reason at all to - why put yourself under an unnecessary stress that she won't understand anyway? My approach to motherhood (and life in general) is to cut down on the amount of work to be done - anything I don't need to do, I don't (unless I want to, like going to the beach today!) and I still find I'm too busy to do everything. Chill out, enjoy Sunday!

Definitely ignore it, it's all a load of faff and they have no idea what's going on. DS2 slept through his first birthday 'party' (just had family round for cake and cup of tea). I paid a fortune for his 2nd birthday at a proper party venue which was a total waste of money so I ignored his 3rd and just had him, ds1 and me plus a cake. He couldnt have cared less about not having a party and it meant that I spent more on decent presents as opposed to having to fork out a fortune on rubbish for party bags for other children. Don't know if I will get away with it for his 4th though.

My dd just had her first birthday, on the 23rd June, which was a Wednesday - and although my parents made a fuss of her that day, we only really 'officially' celebrated on the Saturday - she barely got what was happening anyway, let alone minded about what day it was!

Don't feel guilty - you've got years ahead where she'll insist on having things her way and you'll have that to stress over, so just enjoy being able to have it your way now!!!

We moved DS1s 2nd birthday back a week when DS2 decided to choose that day to be born! he didn't notice

For dd2, she won't care at all. But how old is dd1? Will she understand? That would be my only question about doing this.

I changed my dds 3rd birthday from tues to the sunday before, 3 days early, which was a good job really as at 10 past midnight on her real birthday I went onto labour and had we not done that she would have woke up to mummy in hospital and the worse birthday pressie of all a bratty little sister!