I have a massive crush on the guy who sits next to me at work

[Tatat]

Oooh isn't it delicious having a naughty schoolgirl crush on someone a bit younger!
Am married and would never ever act on this but it's so much fun having a harmless flirt and feeling those little butterflies. Even had a very rude dream about said chap last night and felt all excited about coming to work.
Reminds me of being 15 again, sooo ridiculous!

(Think I am ovulating hence the apparent desire to copulate with men other than my husband )

I also think it is a little unfair to flirt with the man for two days and then revert to normal. He might like it/you and their little brains can't cope with being led on and then dropped! Not to mention not 'shitting on your doorstep'. Flirting at work is highly unprofessional and could lose you your job (and I am no angel in that department, so I know!) Text your dh and tell him what you will do to him when he gets home - much safer!

DH and I had a bit of a rough spot last year (basically the whole of the year) when he was very unhappy and a bit depressed. I like to think that I was as supportive as I could have been at the time (considering he wasn't sure if he wanted to stay with me) and am really grateful that he made the decision to stay. Think it was a bit of a mid life crisis for him even though he's only 32
But there's a bit of unresolved stuff going on I suppose as he never actually said "right I've made my mind up I love you and want to stay, I'm really sorry for making your life hell for twelve months you're lovely you are" etc etc etc, things just sort of got back on an even keel and he now says he's loads happier. I've said a couple of times that I feel a bit hurt that I've waited patiently for him to "come back to me" (in his head) and been as supportive as I can but now I'm just expected to forgive and forget the hell of last year and move on and this seems unfair. I bloody well can't do it. I want him to try and put right some of the hurt he caused me, and I suppose the upshot of all this is that I just don't believe him when he says he loves me and maybe my little flirtation boosts my confidence, it got shattered last year when I thought DH might leave but I had no idea why.
I didni't even realise any of this until I've written it down now and I think I need to take myself off to the ladies to have a little cry

oh tatat - I think you need to tell him how you feel. It is totally understandable why you feel the way you do. Completely.

I can see why your confidence has been shattered - I imagine you have to build this up bit by bit rather than it being a sudden switch and it all comes flooding back.

I totally understand too. My reasons for flirting were similar. I just want to give you the benefit of my own experience because it came back and bit me on the bum. Enjoy flirting but I really think you should sort out your dh before you do anything.

I thought about the advice on this thread, and thought RIGHT THEN. I got a baby sitter for Saturday night put some glad rags on, a bit of lippy and some killer heels and me and DH went out for a chinese and a few drinks. It was lovely. We had a great time, really nice to spend time together and enjoyed his company so much. But I still feel hard done by because of all the shenanigans that went on last year!

What do I do? I've already told dh that I am hurt that he expects me to be able to move on without a real attempt on his behalf to make things right. He has made an apology of sorts- after I'd raised this the first time and in the same way that he'd say sorry if he forgot to buy the milk (i.e. not particularly sincere/without recognition that he'd made me really sad for a long long time). He knows that this didn't make the grade.
Am I being harsh expecting him to show some regret that he hurt me? Should I just try and put it behind us and move on? I feel like it's me who's now causing a rift in our relationship by bearing a "grudge". I put my emotional needs aside for the whole of last year and I feel really let down that he can't even apologise for his behaviour.

Help!