Do you have delutedfriends?

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Do you have any deluted friends who you really care about but can not help them to understand the reality even when they are suffering due to this?

In what way they are deluted and how did you help them?

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Only posting to placemark! !

If I put one friend in a group of people I don’t know does that mean I’ve diluted the friendship?

What does diluted mean x

Deluted

Zen that happens to me with alarming regularity.

Urban dictionary has an extremely confusing definition of 'deluted'

"The act of being so amazing people can't stand it and suffer intensely due to their negative emotions to the point of tilting and making up words to make their life seem more significant than the depressing one they live."

Tom was obviously a deluted man because of how those people reacted to him being in their presence.

I deluted my friend but she didn’t take it very well

I have friends that are deluded, diluted and deluted but I don’t want to talk about them.

zen

Sorry english isn't my first language and my spelling obviously very bad! I do mean deluded!

Come back OP! You have deluted us!

I can't get on to urban dictionary. Could someone please quote it for me. Stupid urban dictionary server. 😠

Ah, a typo - mystery solved. I thought it was a word I'm simply too old and unfashionable to have heard of, OP .

Oops sorry OP! I was just kidding about the dictionary thing

Hahaha! You ladies are so funny

Answering your question, OP, I have had friends who are deluded about aspects of their lives/relationships, yes. There is little you can do other than let it play itself out and be there for them when whatever the delusion is, is shattered. If you try to disillusion them, they usually ignore this or get angry with you.

OP why don't you tell us more about your situation?

My dear friend who I knew for 15 years and is the loveliest person I have ever met, he helped me through my darkest time and always been there for me so I really care about his happiness.

He has been longing for a wife and big family for years, I know he will be a good father and husband but the only thing he hasn't got is a job! This makes it difficult for someone to wanting a family with him!

He has been unemployed for 7 years, he has been looking but he only apply for jobs that Is way beyond his skill set, he thinks everything is easy. I think part of it is because he doesn't have a clue.

I used to work in the same company with him but different department. He is known to be not the brightest.

All I want him to realise is look for something at junior level and work his way up. After so many years of unemployment, he should realise a 40-50k pa jobs is just way above his skill set.

Another friend of ours also suggested him to aim lower (infact much lower) but he simply get annoyed and upset. This friend of ours already lost hope of persuading him.

I don't like seeing him struggle. :(

Difficult. If he won't accept this after seven years, could you try persuading him to get a lower-level job as a 'temporary measure' while he continues to look for something higher paid? This would give him a foot in the door, but positioning it as a stop-gap would allow him to save face.

Difficult, sometimes people just don't want to work their way up.