Is this a personality type or something else

[Oliversmumsarmy]

Spent a few days with a friend, normally only met her with others in a big group.

Very nice lady but talking to her it suddenly dawned on me talking to her was the like talking to dp.

Neither can answer a question or follow a conversation.

Eg
Dp asked when dd was having a couple of days off.
I said it was Thursday and Friday.

Dp: So she is having Monday and Thursday off.
Me :No Thursday and Friday
Dp: So she is having 3 days off.
Me : No 2 days, Thursday Friday
Dp: So which other day is she having off Thursday or Friday

Or with friend making lunch at hers

Me :What do you need help with
Friend: I bought some fish fingers.
Me:Are they in the freezer
Friend : No we have already eaten them.
Me :So what should I get out.
Friend: We could have beans on toast but I don't like beans.
Me:I am easy.
Friend: Well we could have fish fingers.
Me :I thought you said you had eaten them.
Friend:But I have some more.

Is it just me or do neither answer the question or seem to follow the conversation. I find it really hard.

If it isn't me is this a type of personality or something else.

Hi,
several possibilities:
This is the type of conversation my DH could have with DD or DW (me), when our ADD brains are busy being elsewhere. We find it hilarious (what else is there to do) DH not so much.

The same type of conversation can be had with DMil - severly hearing impaired but refuses to wear hearing aids. Again DH is at the receiving end of this.

He uses deep breaths and a pained and weary expression.

This is MIL. I’ve always put it down to her being not very bright. DP and his siblings do it to a lesser extent because of habit (seeing MIL do it for decades) I think as they are quite bright.

Dp is very bright. Friend is dyslexic. Although dyslexia for my age group was treated as you weren't very bright if you had it.
Dp Qualified in a certain profession that normally takes 5.5 years in 6 months.

Quite possibly ADD. Ds is ADHD but I thought he had inherited it from me.

Going to look into ADD.

Just had another conversation with dp about our holiday.

Want this one to be special. Whole other thread.

We agreed dates several weeks ago. Been speaking regularly about it. Dates slot neatly in with his work. DD has organised work around these dates. Ds has organised courses around these dates.

Now dp is saying he didn't know anything about these dates and can we go 10 days later. Right in school holidays. DD has already said yes to work and I have already paid for courses for ds.
I had organised the holiday just wanted for everyone to check the hotels and flight times.Spent ages sorting through best hotels, best flights etc. This was not going to be a package holiday. Equally it is probably the only time ever we could do this. (Re other thread)

I cant cope anymore. It is like trying to direct rain.

We haven't had a holiday for years and this might be the last one we all are together.

We were supposed to go at Christmas but dp came up with reasons why he couldn't go at the last minute.

I sometimes think it is a control thing when dp does it but friend does the same. I do believe her when she says she forgets though as she does remember conversations. Dp on the other hand it is all news to him.

Dp can watch the same tv programme over and over and each time it is like he is watching a brand new episode.

He simply isn't listening when you talk.

Is he always this disrespectful?