What do you understand by "sloppy seconds"?

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My DF was just over for a visit. During the chat we were talking about a table he'd had in his house since I was a kid, that he'd given me, and I'd given back during renovations and now I have no room for. I told him I'd said as much to my brother who had joked "I used to want that but not now - I don't want your sloppy seconds!" When DF left OH laughed and said "I can't believe you used that expression to your Dad! It means shagging someone straight after someone else has." And then went on Urban Dictionary to prove it.

I've never heard it like that before - I know it can mean dating a person someone else has, but I think of it more in a general sense like "Do you want this top I don't want?" "No I don't want your sloppy seconds" and only in a jokey sense. What do you take the expression to mean? Was I a moron or do I tell OH to get his head out of the gutter!

I've only heard it used in the context your OH mentioned...

I understand it to mean what your DH says it means.

I'm with your OH

What OH said. It's not a nice phrase, really.

Yep, with your dh

I only know it in the way your DH used it.

That’s EXACTLY what sloppy seconds means.

Yup, OH’s described what I know it to mean. It’s a bit grim really.

It's what your DH said, hence the "sloppy" part. It's rather revolting.

I’ve only ever heard as to have sex with someone straight after someone else.
I first heard it in the film Rita, Sue and Bob Too so it’s been around a while.

I'm with you OP - I'd use it to means something second hand (usually a piece of clothing), but would also use it like your DH did.

As used in the film Grease in 1978.

Definitely means what your husband said

Both. To me it depends on context and who’s saying it.

Yep, what your DH said. I think anyone who uses it in any other way may have misunderstood slightly...

I'm with with your OH, which is why it's not something I would ever say to anyone.

I always thought it just meant something second hand. Didn't realise it was rude. Am madly trying to think back now to situations where I may have used it inappropriately .
Though I also used to use twat all the time. I thought it was just the same as prat.

Oh good god
dies inside

Hopefully my Da is as innocent/gormless as me...