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going away for the weekend without husband or children...first time ever...any advice please?

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Smurfs · 09/05/2007 10:38

I am due to go away quite soon...actually it is this weekend and I will be leaving my DH and DC for the first time ever! it is only for 2 night/3 days in Europe but I am having a major wobble and trying to find ways not to go....any tips to make it easier please....DC are nearly 4 and nearly 2.

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Summerfruit · 09/05/2007 10:44

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nailpolish · 09/05/2007 10:44

when you are away you will feel this huge weight lifted off your shoulders
ie the minute you step out the door
you dont have to think
"whats for tea"
"right time for bath"
"oh stop fighting"
"i must hang the washing"
etc

you can just think about YOU
waking up naturally feels wonderful

i fyou dont believe me - TRY IT!

HAVE FUN

kittypants · 09/05/2007 10:49

have fun!ive been away a couple of times without dc and dh.but just london for girlie trips.i very soon get used to not having to know where nearest loo is,take huge bag full of bits out,eat wherever i like,not clock watch,wee when i want in peace,have a bath,get up when i like-i tend to still get up early buy i wake myself!--just time off!
your dc will benfit-imo- from time alone with your dh,from a happy refreshed mummy when you return!

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Smurfs · 09/05/2007 10:50

Summerfruit - it is a girls weekend where you went...haven't been before, but worried that if something happens the children - they get ill etc will feel dreadfully guilty that I wasn't there...DH is fab with the children but worried that they will miss me and not settle etc

Nailpolish - I haven't woken up naturally for nearly 4 years....it would be very strange!

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anicelongbath · 09/05/2007 10:52

I'm going away as well leaving 3 dc -9, nearly 7 and 5. in fact the 7th birthday happens whilst i'm away . I've been away before and every time i feel sad, separatiion anxiety, think i don't want to go etc etc. But, the thing is, it does you good - to be you again; not to have anyone wanting anything from you. Yes, you'll miss them but think of the joy when you return feeling refreshed. And dh relishes his time alone with dc. They do things they can't do when I'm around and their relationship is enriched by the experience. So go and have fun. Take a photo with you (my dc put surprises in my bag), leave them a surprise under their pillow, buy them presents...acknowledge your feelings but enjoy the break! hope that helps....

kittypants · 09/05/2007 10:55

anicelongbath ,buisness or pleasure?

franca70 · 09/05/2007 10:57

I have left the children a few times now. Usually with the grandparents. I usually feel dreadful a few days before actually leaving them. I feel guilty, apprehensive, and try to find excuses not to go. But then I go, and I enjoy my adult time. I do miss them, but it's not heartbreaking. I usually ring home at least twice a day. And the children, though being happy to see us back, have always been fine.

anicelongbath · 09/05/2007 10:57

pleasure - girls' weekend in south of france!

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Smurfs · 09/05/2007 10:58

kittypants...having a wee on my own, a rare treat indeed!

anicelongbath....I like the idea of leaving presents for them.....so Mummy is not abandoning them but gaining brownie points in her abscence...hurrah!!

think I will cry..but once there have a great time and if it is too much to be away from them all I can always get a flight home!

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kittypants · 09/05/2007 10:58

so you choose to go away when its your childs birthday?

nailpolish · 09/05/2007 10:59

guilt is a terrible thing isnt it

they will miss you but probably not half as much as you think they will

yellowsnow · 09/05/2007 11:00

lucky bugger

anicelongbath · 09/05/2007 11:02

long story. only weekend everyone can do. dd absolutely fine about it and her sleepover party is planned. she knows that i'm here 99.9% of the time

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Smurfs · 09/05/2007 11:04

nailpolish - torn between not wanting them to miss me at all and then thinking that they really should after everything I do for them and they might appreciate me a little more when I return...how deluded am I!

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Smurfs · 09/05/2007 11:06

anicelongbath....heres to great weekends away!

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franca70 · 09/05/2007 11:07

they will miss you of course, but they'll be fine, and it'll be another "emotional" experience for them.

anicelongbath · 09/05/2007 11:08

absolutely! have fun x

nailpolish · 09/05/2007 12:18

i remember my first weekend away - i phoned home and spoke to dh - asked to speak to dds (ages 4 and 2)
heard them shout from kitchen "we are too busy painting tell mummy"
LOL

franca70 · 09/05/2007 12:19

Lol Np, I had the same reaction last time we went away. And heard ds in the background saying "there's no xxx (ds' name) anymore. I'm zorro now"

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Smurfs · 09/05/2007 17:09

...have found my passport ...only took a few hours! so am viewing it as a sign I should go

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