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Eugh my SO stinks

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awesomeness · 15/03/2018 00:22

Seriously! He won't shower.

I'm in bed, he's next to me and he stinks and his feet are awful!

I told him to go get a shower his feet stank and he's too busy on ps4

Says he'll get one in morning!

It's vile!

Ladies I can't cope

I hate him right now because of an unrelated non stinky reason

But this is just icing on the cake!

He also thinks it's funny coz he cant smell it!

Blush

Rant over

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ElderflowerWaterIsDelish · 19/03/2018 10:55

If your husband finds the thought of standing in the shower and scrubbing too much of an effort then maybe he is depressed or something....will he agree to lay back and relax in a bubble bath, (he could watch TV in the iplayer on an iPad or listen to the radio, he could even have a beer or a coffee....)...if you could get him to do that then it might not seem as much of an effort...but if he persists in not looking after himself you should encourage him to see a dr as that is a symptom of depression and other mental health conditions and he might need medication to help him feel more normal

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awesomeness · 19/03/2018 10:55

He's gone from a role where he was just tech help essentially to manager with a team of 16 new starters

So big leap, we have had money issues recently but they are getting better, I feel run down coz he's working longer hours I'm having to do 99% of everything at home/kids ect, it used to be virtually 50/50 split.

I think I'll broach it later, I don't kniw why depression didn't occur to me before, Im currently being treated for it but I guess I just struggle to see it in other people

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awesomeness · 19/03/2018 10:56

I might even sacrifice a lush bomb from my stash for him to have a nice bath if he will. Like I said earlier, no kids running round tonight so no disturbances

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NotAllTimsWearCapes · 19/03/2018 13:05

I stopped showering when I was depressed. I had no partner but I would make excuses to myself like your husband has. Pretty much the same things “it’s too late” “i’ll do it later” etc. Sounds like the pressure of the new job and money worries have gotten too much for him.

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awesomeness · 19/03/2018 13:41

It does seem to be like that. I'm kicking myself I didn't think of it sooner. Think I'm going to talk to him tonight see if there's anything he feels can be done.

I'm quite upset incase I've been stupidly insensitive

My depression manifests in not brushing my hair or washing it.I'll have a bath (I hate showers) but I never had the energy to deal with my hair and I just leave it :(

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Pannacott · 20/03/2018 01:04

(Ah, sorry for my previous post there. There is a troll who has posted similar and been regularly deleted, I should have checked if you were a regular poster OP).

FloatyFlo · 20/03/2018 11:58

Sorry for my previous post too! I should've checked that Panncott was correct. Tbh I only posted something for the deletion message. I'm a twat. Sorry OP Flowers

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awesomeness · 20/03/2018 22:56

It's fine ladies.

Just came to update.

Looks like it is depression, he's a notorious closed book so was hard to extract anything from him.

But this promotion isn't what it's cracked up to be, he's got his own team of badly trained new starters and also cover managing his old team (who haven't taken the news favorably) and are being quite nasty

He's worried about money as my old car is on its last legs, and I could do with a new one. And he's not getting any monthly bonus right now because his teams new and isnt earning bonus themselves so he doesn't get one, so that's leaving us £400-£500 down per month, he doesn't get a bonus from cover managing

He also got a speeding ticket he was scared to tell me about as he's summoned and could mean a ban

He's upset because he's been causing me stress lately as I'm doing virtually everything st home because of his longer hours and I have arthritis in hands and knees, hemiplegic migraines and I have aspergers, I'm also dealing with a high functioning autistic 15 year old, with an eating disorder and mental health issues which have been at the worst last few weeks, so virtually daily appointments all over the place and only going to school 2-3days a week as he was off for a while and on phased return to lessons

he didn't want to put anything else on me. He's said he'll think about going to the doctor and speaking to them at work about the fact he's cover managing his old team and they don't like it. I'm going to keep working at getting him the docs but I know he won't go unless he absolutely has to and I can't recall him ever going since we've been together :/

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NaughtToThreeSadOnions · 20/03/2018 23:09

By the sounds of it you could all do with a little support.

You say the kids aere staying at grand larents is there any way they could help a bit? I'm not sure how but you all seem to be having a tough time.

Theres three of you whos mental health isnt the best, that really cant be easy.

I hope some one with more expertise than me can pount you in the right direction for gettingba bit of practical help and support

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