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Was I out of order?

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Nottoolate38 · 10/03/2018 15:48

Currently on holiday at a well known UK holiday resort and took my kids to do an activity where I (along with every other parent there) was videoing and taking pictures of my kids having fun and making memories. I was approached (although that seems rather too tame a word) by another parent demanding I stop videoing as the implication was that I was purposely videoing her kids. I attempted to explain to her that I was not yet she insisted I was as she had been viewing my video!! (Very concerning as why did she feel the right to spy on my kids then make the accusation). She was very insistent on her case so I reported her to the resort management as I felt targeted inappropriately by her. Was I out of order to feel so angry that she chose me to approach out of all the other parents there? Fuming as it is now such a humiliating memory of a special family time.

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Allthebestnamesareused · 11/03/2018 21:09

You are out of order for using the most cringeworthy phrase- making memories.

Other than that she was in the wrong especially if everyone was doing the same and the venue didn't ask people not to.

C0untDucku1a · 11/03/2018 21:11

As long as you were filming to leave on your camera for personal use, fine.

If you were planning to upload to social media, not fine.

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Nottoolate38 · 11/03/2018 23:17

With all due respect C0untDucku1a I make my personal choice to share my personal photographs I have taken of my children privately on Social Media with my friends and family -especially as their uncle is on the other side of the world, your opinions on what you do with your personal photographs are entirely your personal choice.

My question was regarding my annoyance at the situation.

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C0untDucku1a · 11/03/2018 23:34

That's of course fine. But if you have other people’s children on those photos and films, they arent being allowed to make that chiice. So that’s not fine.

Where her children in your film?

IAmWonkoTheSane · 11/03/2018 23:37

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kerryweaverscrutch · 11/03/2018 23:39

It is fine though, since you can take any photo or video you like, and also upload it to your social media if you choose to. '
It's entirely up to you, whether other people like it or not.

Userplusnumbers · 11/03/2018 23:44

You were in public, you were in the right. She was being a dick.

kerryweaverscrutch · 11/03/2018 23:46

if so then she had every right to tell you she did not want that

she didn't

GreenTulips · 11/03/2018 23:50

share my personal photographs I have taken of my children privately on Social Media

Social media isn't private

Not your choice to share other people's children with anyone and everyone

You have no idea of those children's circumstances or where the videos may end up.

Your children won't thank you for it in future

C0untDucku1a · 11/03/2018 23:53

It is very entitled to think that you have the right to photograph / film someone else’s child and put that on social media just because they are out in public, no?

iwanttoeatallthecarbs · 11/03/2018 23:56

Depends if her kids were actually in your photos?

theeyeofthestormchaser · 11/03/2018 23:58

So were you filming her dc? Were they in your pics?

kerryweaverscrutch · 11/03/2018 23:59

Its not entitled, its a fact. You can take the photos and use them as you like (as long as not commercial).

Whether people think its ok or not is up to them, but you can totally do it if choose to

C0untDucku1a · 12/03/2018 00:04

Still a dick move, kerry. Very selfish. Takes little to no effort to take a photo that just contains your own children in most circumstances. Wait a bit and pose them with a clear background? Angle yourself so only yours are clear?

IAmWonkoTheSane · 12/03/2018 00:07

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kerryweaverscrutch · 12/03/2018 00:08

to you, but many people don't care and its legally fine.

If you're in the UK your children are near constantly on camera anyway, the most spied on people in the world. Seems a bit weird to get upset about being in the background of some randoms shot?

C0untDucku1a · 12/03/2018 00:20

The op thinks the woman was unreasonable to tell op she didnt want her child filmed by a stranger, but then the op said the woman was out of order looking at op’s child on camera. why did she feel she had the right to spy on my kids So not even the op thinks this is ok surely?!

Mumma1116 · 30/03/2018 19:50

Tbh OP i agree with you she sounds like a right madam! I wouldnt have stopped videoing my children, and i would have been livid she even suggested i was filming hers. The world has really gone mental!

Camiila · 30/03/2018 19:53

If you were in a public place, then legaly you are fine. if you were in a private place, that's different

GinIsIn · 30/03/2018 19:55

So it’s ok for you to have her children on film but not ok for her to look over your shoulder at your child on film....?

LynetteScavo · 30/03/2018 20:18

She has a right to ask you not to film.

You have the right to film.

I'm not sure what replies you hoped for, except that we should all say she was an unreasonable cow.

I'm so glad I wasn't having precious family time, creating special memories with my DC today. The whole thing sounds hellish.

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