Do I want to live next door to mum?

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Arr! I have just found out that the house next door to my mum is for a sale at a really good price and, if we act fast we could get it at that price too (scottish law is offers over, if you wait you will end up in a bidding war. Nightmare!)
It is a fantastic 4 bed house with a Huuuge living room a good sized kitchen and a fitted utility room. The garden is also a great size, enclosed and gets the sun all day! It also has a garage to please DH.

BUT it is next door to my mum!!! God love her but, you know!?
The garden is totally enclosed from her side though, does that help?? But, lets be honest, you know I would end up with a gate so DD, and the next, could go see Granny whenever they wanted without going out the front.
Which would be ok anyway cos it is a really quiet street.

Oh dear what shall I do!?

My brain says, you don't need to move, the house you have is ok. But it is only two bed and I don't really like this village anyway. Not that it is bad, I am just not a huge fan and don't really want my children to be teenagers here.
DH and I really wanted a house in the country but part of me does not think that is a terribly good idea (ending up taxi drivers etc)

Oh no, heeelp!!

Yes I'd do it

I used to live next door to my parents. No problems cos they don't really mither me. In fact - I see more if them/get more phone calls no I DON'T live next door

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my mum retired to live near us and ended up on the same street

at the time we thought it was a Bad Thing

but like you say, kids can go round really quick

and I like to remind her that when she is old and infirm I will be able to bring her dinner round for her without it getting cold on the way

Depends on your relationship with your Mum.
I love my Mum dearly, and she loves me too, but we'd both acknowledge that we couldn't live next door to each other.
And I think there would have to be boundaries ie: when the children can call round, and when it is Granny's own time - or when she can pop round to you.

We lived a few doors away from my parents wen we lied in London and we loved it. Loved having them pop round whenever and vise versa. Now we've moved to Cambridge but they've bought a flat in the same village and are here most of the week. I love it and am glad they see so much of us.

Agree that the boundaries thing is important, and if you get that sorted upfront it might be great?

I'm wondering the same sort of thing with my parents, tho I do think close but not RIGHT next door is probably ideal

We are round the corner from MIL, it works well because everyone respects each other's privacy. Actually i wish she'd just pop in more We help each other too - she'll babysit, i'll pick up her shopping, DH does DIY etc. Put in an offer? You might not get the house anyway.

Yeah, mum and I get on great. She is defo my best friend.

We lived a field away from DH's parents for a year or so and it worked fine?

It would just be the idea of them being able to hear me when I am in the garden that would be a bit weird. Will they think I am a horror when I have to reprimand DD or too soft, don't suppose I could ever win!! DDis only 7months BTW, so I am ahead of myself a little, but it will have to happen one day.

I am not sure that DH will go for it. I think it would be him that I would have to convince more than me! So I need to be sure, before I begin my battle

I moved 4 doors away from my mums house a couple of years ago...

It was in the same street I grew up in, very nice neighbourhood and nice house, we also got at a good price and was able to do it up..

Before it came on the market we weren't looking to move..

Now this is the down side. Within a few months of moving her we found out that my mum had cancer and passed away within 8 months...

I now hate living here, so close to my parents house (that I grew up - parents lived their for 45 years) yet they aren't there..

Now of course I'm not saying that anything bad will happen to your mum, but just something to consider if you want to stay their long time, or if you mum is already old... especially if it is your family home...

please excuse my their and theres, that was quite hard to type without getting all emotional, so spelling and grammar went out of the window...

Oh goodness Heifer, what a horrible thing to happen
Mum is only in her 50's so I am not sure that that would happen, though, you just never know do you.

Then you should definately go for it...

I bet she will be a great help when you need it, yet still have your privacy when you need that..

Did you live in the house? do you know the neighbours etc?

Yeah, we moved to the house next door when I was 10.
But this particular house is a little isolated from all the neighnours because of the wall so we never met anyone who lived in it.
Which means that I will also be a little isolated from those around us. Which is good and bad. That way we can feel as if we are not living in my childhood home, but we won't really see anyone!

Maybe I am just jumping on a good deal? Should I wait for my perfect house in the country? Or wait a few more years until we can aford to buy the land to build our dream house? Though I am not sure I could ever build my dream home. My dream home would ideally be hundreds of years old! well at least one (hundred) anyway

buy it at good price then look to move and make money?

I wouldn't do it if you paid me (I find 200 miles my limit on closeness)