Hi fellow mumsies
I need some advice here-Insight, what have you. I'm a 37 year old young, divorced mum of 2 gorgeous girls.
I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years (with a couple breaks here and there). He lives over an hour away and we see each other maybe once every 2 weeks. (I know that sounds crazy but it's what I'm used to and honestly, I can't imagine being around a man more than that)
It's getting to the point where he's bringing up moving in together and I can not think of anything worse. I've spent my entire life NEEDING to be in a relationship and feeling lost if I went even 1 day being single. I have finally and very recently 'found myself' and learned to love my own company and be totally content being alone. I cherish my time, my space and my routine. You could say that I've become selfish with my time and space but hey, I'm allowed to be.
So in a nutshell, it gives me major anxiety to even think of sharing my space and time with someone other than my kids. Not to mention, integrating someone as a father figure into my girl's lives and trying to form a family. He is childless and is clueless and ignorant to how to deal with an adolescent and teenage girl. He has some disgusting habits quirks that eat at me as well. The only way I see living with a man again to be successful and enjoyable is if he does not interfere in my routine and the way I like to do things. Ever. And I know it takes compromise for cohabitation but I'm just not there. I don't have the desire or patience. It took me a long time (3 years) to get comfortable in my own skin, build my little nest and grow my own roots and make my own cozy little life and the thought of throwing that all away honestly makes me feel depressed.
So ladies please help and throw some advice my way
