I'M LIVID ABOUT A SO CALLED FRIEND...................................

[Sparkler1]

Recently DD1 has had to do a French project for school. Part of is was to design a brochure to advertise Disneyland Paris. She was talking to one of her best friends at school about it and told her that she had visited there last year. Her friend responded by saying "well your family is rich and can visit all these different places". I cannot believe that something like that would come from a 7 year old girl's mind. Surely she's picked that up from her parents? What do you think?

The mum of the child is a fairly good friend of mine, or so I thought.

We are not, as she so put it rich. We are fortunate enough that DH has had good jobs in the past and I also work. DH and I have saved and worked as hard as we can to get where we are today. We saved and payed for our own wedding - not a penny from any of our parents. We have our lovely home purely by us both working hard. Everything we own we have worked our socks off for.

I'm just so cross that a so called friend of mine could say something like that.

Maybe I should have posted this is AIBU.

Surely 'rich' is relative. And from the point of view of a seven-year-old, does it really matter whether you worked hard or inherited it? The seven-year-olds didn't work for it.

I don't see why you're upset, tbh. What should your friend have said if her child asked her why your family went away for holidays, and hers didn't?

It might be that dd's friend was nagging at her mum to go and they can't afford it so that's what she said to stop the nagging?
Don't let it bother you so much. We all say things to our dcs we don't want repeating!

I can quite believe that coming from a seven year old TBH - some of them can be right little mares! Doesn't necessarily mean she has heard it from the parents. Or...she may have asked her parents if they could go and they said oh no, we can't afford it, hence her comment to your daughter?

Who is to say which adult she has picked this up from, don't jump to conclusions.

Anyway, it is true that if your parents take you to Disneyland then you are more fortunate than many other children.

What is it that is making you feel so cross, I don't quite get it?

i wouldn't assume this has come from the parents. kids pick up things from their peers, teachers, tv.......

Well, maybe to a seven year old you do seem rich.

I think you are being unreasonable because you are overreacting. "Your family are rich" is not an insult, it's merely an opinion,.

Your friend might not have said anything directly about you or your family. For all you know, her daughter asked her why they didn´t go on foreign holidays and her mum said because they aren´t rich, or only rich people can do that, or whatever.

Or maybe she´s drawn her own conclusions. I remember asking my Mum if we were rich (we so weren´t LOL!) when I was about that age. She said no, we were comfortable but not rich by any means but I remember being quite insistent that I thought we were. God knows why. So not sure why you think you friend has anything to do with it at all.

Fair points made - maybe I was feeling oversensitive when dd told me what had happened. The mum is a bit of a back stabber about other people around the school and I guess I just assumed she's been doing it to me as well.

I don't really understand what you're upset about tbh. I really wouldn't be angry with a friend because of something their 7 year old had said.

I consider myself told off!

Ah, well, if there's a context, I can see you being bothered. But I'd be livid about her being a backstabber, rather than about this single comment. (If she backstabs other people, she will backstab you, if she hasn't already.)

Sparkler you have some context to the remarks that we haven't got, so you may be right to suspect this.

In themselves, without this context, I think there is nothing offensive about these remarks though

LOL about comfortable. DS (7) is so confused about whether we're rich or poor. I've explained to him that in comparison to other people in our country we're poor, but in comparison to most people in the world and throughout history, we're fabulously rich.

Not sure he's got that yet!

Agree with NQC backstabbing comment. If you suspect her, you're probably right... I can see why you're upset now (context is everything)

oh dear - starting to wish I hadn't said anything now.