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Just said goodbye to my cat :)

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Lethal · 26/07/2004 02:12

Have just returned from having my 14 year old cat put to sleep. She has been suffering from kidney failure and was very weak and frail in the last couple of weeks... she's now buried in the back garden and I've been trying to stop blubbering

She was my baby for 10 yrs before ds came along, I feel so bad because most of the love and attention that I lavished on her, went straight to ds after he was born. She probably missed out on lots of cuddles and attention over the last couple of years while we all got on with our busy lives, but it's still hard to imagine life without her. She was such a good cat.

Sorry to sound depressing Just another stage in life I guess.

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Weatherwax · 28/07/2004 01:13

Lethal, I don't think you are silly. I still have my cats ashes in a cupboard in my living room. I want to move and I don't want to leave him behind, Its been well over a year now.

My dd1 misses him as well but announced:- We are going to get a cat this weekend. After much talking we actually got a kitten the weekend after. A totally different cat but a big mistake for me because she's just not the big old (15 year) soppy cat I miss. It was good for the kids but a kitten was a mistake/hard work. Curtains get climbed and the need for play is not really copable with toddlers around. Also dd1 found out that cats scratch alot. My old cat only ever scratched her once, and very gently at that as he had had enough of whatever she was trying to do. Now kitten is approaching 2 the relationship between dd1 and kitten is improving. I like her but that special bond is not there.

I've wanted to give you my sympathies ever since the start of this thread but I've found it difficult as I still miss him. Part of my independant and single days. It does get easier, I remember lots more of the good times without pain now.

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Lethal · 28/07/2004 01:36

Thanks weatherwax, I'm glad you've given me that perspective because although kittens are absolutely beautiful, I also had a feeling that it could be too much hard work. My cat was so well trained after a few years, that I think I've forgotten how difficult it can be to have a young, energetic, playful one around. Dh and I are about to get a new lounge suite and we don't particularly want it to become a scratching post for a new kitty.

If we do get another cat, perhaps we can get one from the RSPCA that's not a kitten anymore and one that also has a gentle nature. At least then we can save a life at the same time

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Weatherwax · 28/07/2004 12:25

We got both our cat and our kitten from the cats protection league. The do inspect you, to make sure you are ok and to find out what sort of cat is right for you. My husband was so keen on a kitten though!

I hope that you choose the right time for you to choose a cat and that your memories start to become more bearable soon. I think cats give so much whilst being so independant they dont mind when you have no time.

Hairyfairy · 11/10/2004 10:04

Just read these messages whilst looking for some comfort. I lost my lovely cat Oscar just over a week ago on the road outside my house and am knocked sidweways by just how devastated I feel. Your messages will I am sure help me to get over the HUGE gap he's left in my life. I think it makes it all the worse because we feel responsible for the love which had to be spread so much farther when kids arrived. I'd do anything to be able to give him a bit of the one-to-one attention he loved right now!

charliecatthenonsmoker · 11/10/2004 10:22

Aww HairyFairy, its horrible isnt it? How old was Oscar?

PuffTheMagicDragon · 11/10/2004 11:05

Hairyfairy, I really understand how you feel. It is so hard losing a much loved pet.

Puff (formerly 2gorgeous boys).

mieow · 11/10/2004 11:46

My cat, Leroy, went missing back in december, I discovered his body in Feb. in the garden. I was devastated and missed him so much, He was 7 and my baby before DS was born. We got another kitten, Nemo, at the end of Jan. when we realised that Leroy wouldn't be coming home, then two weeks later I found his body (even though we had checked the garden repeatly) and aboput 2 months ago we help to home another cat, Storm, who is 7 months old now, I love having the cats about, when I get up and they are milling around my feet, mieowing for food, and when they sit and purr on my lap in the evening. Nemo is my cat and Storm is DHs.

Goldfish · 11/10/2004 12:24

It is so sad when you lose a pet. I had a cat for 9 years before ds1 was born. I had to have her put down at 13 due to kidney failure. I didn't get another one straight away as I have a dog as well and I thought I would wait and see how the dog settled as she was quite young. Then one evening in November when it was cold and dark me and my 2 dss had just been swinmming. We came out to the car and heard this weird wailing. On close inspection it turned out to be a little kitten. Some one living nearby said she had been thrown out of a window and abandoned. We took her to the vets and we then kept her. She was a beautiful little cat. Sadly a year later she was found dead on the road in front of our house. We were heartbroken. I said I would never have another cat at first but a few days later we went to the rescue centre and got Suki, who we have now had for 3 years. She is lovely and is best friends with the dog. It is so sad when you do lose a pet as they are part of your family. My dad has just lost his beloved Westie at 14 yrs and is so upset. . You will feel better in time Hairyfairy. Hugs to you and at least you know that Oscar had a great life with you.

gingernut · 11/10/2004 13:10

Sorry to hear this hairyfairy. We lost our cat on the road outside our house when I was pg with ds. We thought a new moggie as well as a new baby would be a bit much so we are still cat-less at the moment, but we do hope to get another one when #2 baby (due soon) is a bit older. I did feel almost as if I'd lost a child though - I was responsible for him after all, and we still miss him more than 3 years later. You will start to feel a little less bereft after a while though.

NomDePlume · 11/10/2004 13:16

Poor you Lethal. It's so heartbreaking, really like losing a member of the family. Huge hugs.

NomDePlume · 11/10/2004 13:18

Only just realised that this is a resurrected thread. Hugs to you, Hairy

poppyseed · 11/10/2004 13:24

oh dear how awful

Our cat died on the day DD was born - we like to think he was reincarnated as they share so many likes and dislikes it's quite strange - silly I know.
The cat we have now we had as a kitten when DD was about 4. She loves her to bits although her baby brother, 18 months, isn't so sure about her at the moment! She keeps running away when he tries to talk (shout ) at her.

It's heartbreaking after having them part of the family - I really sympathise with you and send you lots of hugs to try to make you feel better.

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