Pregnant for the sixth time aged 39 - help!!

[ScottishSusan]

Hi Everyone
Got quite a shock today when I discovered I was pregnant for the 6th time. I only took the test because my husband joked with me last night that I "looked" pregnant!!
I was on the pill and I am still breast feeding my 18mth old at night.
My feelings are all over the place.......
I work part time as a teacher and am only back a year since last maternity leave - they will freak!!

Talk to me someone xxxxxxxx

Have you booked in with doctor? Any ideas how far along you are?

What does your dh think?

I have made appointment with doctor for Friday.
My husband is wonderful and he says don't worry we'll cope!
I was just getting a bit of ME back and now this! I love my children and I loved having my babies but I thought that part of my life was over! I'd joined the gym and was going on girl nights out .......
I am in shock ....

Hugs to you.
I found out 3 weeks ago I was expecting number 3 and was very very shocked.
I can totally understand, especially the bit about getting you back.

Oh blimey, what a shock Have your pregnancys been okay, without complications that sort of thing?

All of my pregnancies have been great! hassle free! I had my last baby at home and it was fantastic... only in labour for 1 hour!!!

I think I am quite a young looking 39 and recently and was back to wearing size 10 - I thought I was letting myself go when I found the jeans getting tight!

I have suffered from depression after each prenancy and am still taking antidepressants. That should be ok as i am breast feeding while taking them but I'll not take any till I see doc on Friday...
Please keep chatting xxxx

I know that how pregnancies are, is the not the only factor in worrying about an unexpected prrgnancy, but glad for you, that you don't have this additional worry.
I think the only thing I can think of, is that having 6 children will really impress people, maybe you are such a fantastic mum, that having 6 for you, is right.
I guess what will be will be
How will your wider family react?

Susan - do not stop taking them without speaking to your doctor first. Call the surgery and ask him to call you asap.

Have you the space for 6?

You already have a large family, i was 1 of 5 (some step siblings but no matter, actually 7 of us altogether but 5 were the ones who practically lived together, went on hols together etc)
anyway i found there is always someone to talk to though i'm not as close to some now we are older.

At least you already have equiptment, clothes etc

What are the ages of the children you have already?

Everyone in the family will be great I'm sure after the shock wears off! My dad dies in December and I was so happy that he'd got to see all of his granchildren ... not now

My oldest will be 15 soon and I know he'll cope fine with it as will my 4 year old and 18mth old but I thinkthat my 13 year old will be uttterly ashamed and embarrased and I don't know how the 10 year old will react..... they are all boys except my 4 year old. The 3 older ones are from my first marriage....

Agh .... I just can't beleive it ... I'm not unhappy.....not happy.... just shocked!

FWIW, I've been able to carry on taking my AD's through this pregnancy. There are a few that are ok.
But do speak to your GP, please dont stop totally.
Been there done that, wasnt nice!

So this one could be a girl, could equally be a boy........either way it doesn't sound like this baby will have a negative impact. your 13 and 10yr olds have accepted their 18mth old brother I don't see why they wouldn't accept this new baby.

If you dh is supportive and you can afford then i'd be chuffed, oh as for fitting into your size 10's 18mths after having your baby i'm very my dd is 19mths and im still in 14/16's!! and i was a 12 before i even got pg after a 6yr gap!

We are very lucky to have enough room for another one ...just!! Money will be tight but I guess we'll manage...

It's crazy though that I've just sold a huge amount of my maternity clothes and little baby things ....

Maternity clothes? I thought by your 6th you just wear your dh's pj bottoms/ jogging bottoms and a baggy t shirt - who changed the rules?

Of course you'll manage.

Any chance of getting the attic converted so your eldest has somewhere to study for his GCSE's or could he go round a relatives for a bit to get homework done? I'm imagining it being a bit hectic?

I just feel so OLD and TIRED... my 18mth boy hasn't slept since he was born although all the others did... I even joked that the hardest had been saved till last to put me off having any more... IT DID!!

I can't stop crying ...........

The 3 older ones already have their on rooms and that wont change so at least they do have their own space...and we can give my little girl a room of her own and so the baby would have to share with the 18mth old.. or 2 yr old as he will be...

Oh hun ((((((((((hugs)))))))))))

You have 9 mths to sort your youngest out by the time baby arrives your ds will be much more independant and not so baby like anymore.

You have plenty of helpers.

Get yourself as much rest as you can while you get your head around it. Of course it's a big shock, you had accepted not having anymore but it's not the end of the world hun.

Thanks LOVEMYGIRLS I know it's not that bad.. it just seems it at the moment .... and I know that in a couple of weeks I'll be feeling guilty for feeling this way...
Do mums ever stop feeling guilty for something?

My 19mth old has been waking in the night recently, she had a cough and we started giving her juice in the night when she cried thinking her throat must be sore. She then got into the habit of wanting juice in the night, we have now stopped giving juice and only offering water she is waking less and less, hopefully she'll soon be back to normal.

Do you know why your ds is waking? Any idea's on what you could do to stop this?

I feel a bit cheeky i'm only on my 2nd and i'm only 25 so i'm sure you have much better ideas than me on how to handle your children.

Personally i would don my hard hat and let him cry until he gets the message night time is sleep time.

I think guilt is in the small print!!

How are you feeling now?

Well I feel very different today than I did yesterday.

My dh came home from work and was so happyabout the news and so positive that it made me feel so much better. I also confided in my mum as she is also my best friend and she was also very positive.

It seems I'm just meant to be the mum of 6...
anyway it means thatI can keep all my baby things for a bit longer and use my beautiful moses basket again.

Thanks to everyone for being so supportive yesterday. It was just what I needed while I was here on my own xxxxx

scottish susan congratulations!!!

Are you me??????

i have 5 14.5 12.5 10.5 4 and 14 months! what are yours grirls/boys!

Hi Notan Otter

I have 3 boys - 15, 13 and 10 then a girl aged 4 and a boy aged 18mths xx what are yours?

boy girl boy boy boy!
i am 39 too!